I really messed up a relationship with a friend and its not just me but mostly me. Someone please help! :(?

Question

ok so i've lied to her many times about different guys who didnt exsist and this time i told her i had a boyfriend and i was texting him but it was really my other friend pretending to be him and she called the number a found it wasnt him. I really messed up this time and she and i said some really hurtfull stuff to eachother. We go to the same school and i dont want things to be awkward between us. How do i fix this? Please help!
By the way she really hurt my feelings and said some really mean things about me and my other friends and im not selfish i was just having fun because she kept bragging. Im sure if you were me you would lie too. No one understands why i lied. I know i messed up by lieing in the first place but just saying sorry isnt going to work. We really hurt eachother. Please help!

Answer 1

Lying may get you what you want in the beginning but will never get you what you want in the long run. There is no good reason to be lying all the time and you get what you deserve. Learn a lesson from this one and don't do it again. It was fun for you but not for her. You need to learn what love really is. No one will trust you if you keep on lying. Who wants to go out with a liar. Do you?

Answer 2

My golly golly gosh,what sort of friendship is this called....the friendship when your not having a friendship !!!!Darling,make some new friends,sounds like you two are too emotionally involved.Firstly you should try to work on the issues that make you fight.Sit down somewhere and have a third person there to say to you both,well I think this!! then its not just the two of you.,being negative to each other.Women have razor tongues,I am the Queen at that one.But it helps if you take a step back and look at the situation,your thoughts usually change,between rage and calming down.Lies...they get you nowhere.There is an old saying...you can trust a thief but can't trust a liar.

Answer 3

If she was really your friend in the beginning you wouldn't have lied in the first place. Just because someone hurts your feelings doesn't mean you have to get her back. Why would you lie to your friend about being with guys anyway?
If you really want to be friends with her you have to stop the lies for one thing. Another is both of you need to sit down with each other and have a heart to heart. See how each of you feels afterwards and maybe you can get your friend back. If not you just need to move on, but count this as a huge learning experience. Don't lie to your friends if you want to keep their trust and friendship.

Answer 4

I see some very good life lessons in your story and I hope that you have learned some things from this misadventure.
The most important lesson that I hope that you've learnt from this is to be yourself. You lied to your friend because you felt you had to compete with her to be in the same league. You are you, and should be proud of who you are.
I think that it is very mature of you to admit your fault. That is the biggest step required when you want to fix something. Try and talk it out with your friend... real friends understand that people can talk trash when angry and it doesn't necessarily mean anything.
I think that you have the ability to be a great friend. You're proving it by wanting to fix the problem even though you feel hurt right now. If your friend refuses to talk it out with you ,let it go...it's her loss. Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

you need to swallow your pride, apologize and most of all, stop lying. it may take some time to earn back her friendship but you have really got to earn it to have a chance.

try writing a letter saying sorry and not giving any excuses just admit you were wrong, she was right and you really miss her friendship. make you tell everyone else you were wrong too. no whining just admit you made a mistake and learn from it. that could save you a lot of pain in the long run.

you might also try sending her a gift like flowers to let her know that you really mean it.

Answer 6

to be honest number one stop lying and number 2 tell her you were so sorry and I will do anything have trust me again. I know it going to take along time to trust me.

Lie hurts people and you keep on makeing it bigger and bigger and end up like this. You knew what going to happen. but you did it anyway. So go over there tell her I am sorry I am not proud what I am doing and It was wrong for me to lie to my friend to you.

Good luck kid.

Answer 7

You both have been hurt and hurting each other. Be a humble, be the first to ask an apologize and confess your mistakes and swear not repeat those mistakes and try to built a health relationship and trust. I believe that she will shame of her self and do the same, and both of you will be a friends, good friends in anything. Good Luck

Answer 8

Im glad you acknowledge your fault and that you want to now mend things...the only way you can do that is to talk to her and let her know what is bothering you and the reason for you to lie...Once you get down to the problem and she understands you...things should be fine but you also eed to dstopthe lies...I had a friend who used to do the same but we were still friends...its because she wanted to feel important and envied coz she did nt feel good about her self.you need to build up your self asteem ....

Answer 9

she has a right not to trust u now. shes you friend and u should have known she would understand if u didnt have a guy in ur life. in friendships you should never lie and there is no reason to. if u had done that to me i would have said mean things to u to, she had a right to. well uve learned from your mistake dont lie because they never work

Answer 10

Not only did she say bad things to you, you did the same too. Maybe she did overreact over the whole texting thing, but you lied to her and she didn't like that. Try talking to her and apologize to her.