Why is it?

Question

That people who say " people have to earn my respect" are usually people no one would give their respect to?

Answer 1

Because those people don't respect themselves they demand it from others.

If you respect yourself you will have no need of it from others. Others will naturally respect you, giving you that good energy!

Those who demand it from you will not get it.

If someone is telling you to earn their respect and you have done nothing to lose it then I recommend to distance yourself from that individual.

Answer 2

well, not to underestimate the credence due to the responses already given, but there is one other option that I feel should at least be acknowledged....

someone can not be slighted for having a lack of faith in others if experience has taught them to...while it's easy for others, who maybe haven't been put in that position in an extreme way, to say just move on and keep seeing everyone in a positive initial light, it falls back to the cliche "easier said than done"...first encounters/early relationships are based on past encounters with other people, so if those have led us to expect the worst, it's hard to offer respect immediately...

as much as I'd love to adopt the idealistic assumptions that give elders and teachers and authority figures immediate respect, it takes but a single look around at the world we've created for ourselves and the newspapers that remind us at every turn that we can no longer equate those positions with goodness...I mean, corrupt cops and molesting teachers easily, even if regretfully, enough exist so why not a little healthy doubt towards strangers? it's no offense to ppl that are met, simply a defense mechanism that humans have developed that is as automatic and inherent to us as camoflauge for a chameleon or a shell for a turtle...

if these traits make ppl hard to know, or inclined towards unfortunately untowardly character, then just remember to ask "Why are they like this?"

Answer 3

Everyone has to earn everyones' respect these days. Evidently, no one gets respect anymore like they should. Teachers, should get respect automatically, parents, strangers, policeman, etc, no one gives a crap anymore, and that's just SAD! But no one does anything about it. It's an endless circle, but it starts at home!

Answer 4

Nor do they give respect. I respect everybody, until they give me a reason to lose respect for them. It usually doesn't take long with the type of people you mentioned.

Answer 5

So true. Some people throw around the term "respect" but have no idea of what it means. Disrespectful people do not deserve anyone's respect.

Answer 6

Respect is something that can never be earned. Respect is given, it is a gift second only to love that one person can give to another. As such, it should never be kept to oneself.

Answer 7

Those people over respecting their imaginable or incompleted qualities completely neglecting to respect themselves. Oneself is not its qualities, it might include qualities as a parts of ONESELF. That is how arrogance had been originated. Very term Oneself speaks for itself...it is not divided to this and that, it is One.

Answer 8

In general people respect your chair, power, wealth etc not you

Answer 9

It's just their way of saying I can be a rude pig if I want because you don't respect ME.
p.s your Avatar is cute.

Answer 10

Because people tend to project onto others their fears, shortcomings and idiosyncracies.

Put another way, people tend to assume that what is important to them are the same things important to others.