2006-06-27 17:17:02 · 10 answers · asked by sweetsexything 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Communication, communication, communication. It's not too late to get some post-marital counseling. It's good. Speaking from a Christian perspective, seek the wisdom of the Bible. Husband love your wives as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for it. Eat meals together. Give no less than ten non-sexual touches a day. When you leave each other's presence to got to work or school, always live so that your spouse regrets your departures and long for your arrivals. Do your best to help your spouse reach their goals. Never lie or keep secrets. Build your own traditions. Surprise your spouse often with the little things. Never let finances cause you to loose your mind. Go through FPU (Financial Peace University) www.daveramsey.com. Make your spouse Number one second only to God. Don't discuss what is in your house with friends. Never jokingly talk about divorce.
Enjoy your spouse to the fullest.
You are a blessed minority.
Keep the bread fresh.
And read some of the answers that I received on my question about doing things for my spouse.
2006-06-27 17:31:48 · answer #1 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are no kids from previous marriages, then you take time for the two of you for at least a year so you can get to know each other. You are newlyweds, after all. The two of you need to talk about kids, how many you want, etc. This, actually, should have been talked about before marriage.
If there are already kids involved, then you take it one day at a time. You both stay involved in the kids every day lives whether they live with you or the ex's. It takes time for kids to handle stepparents (I am one and it took a long time).
To establish a good family, it takes love, honesty, respect, and communication from both of you. If you don't have these, then you may not have a good family. It takes a lot of hard work, time, and patience.
2006-06-28 00:25:56 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you're asking means that you've already put a priority on good relationships. The will to work at family harmony is essential, but so is knowing yourself and what you want in life, then blending those goals with your spouse's. I'm a new parent and the fun my husband and I have with our son is like nothing else ... we love each other, and work through the hard times.
2006-06-28 00:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by jaqgill2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first rule of any good relationship at all is communication. Be willing to be kind and honest with each other and still communicate what you need, feel and want. Remember that life can throw unexpected things your way, but if you're commited to handling those challenges and changes together you'll make it through. Be willing to make and meet compromises with each other, and always make special time to spend together doing something you find relaxing and fun.
2006-06-28 00:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by Namon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice, ask one of Jehovah's Witnesses to study the bible with you and your spouse. The bible guidelines they apply in the family are such a tremendous help in keeping a family strong and together.
2006-06-28 02:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by corel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You now have a 60% chance of getting divorced. You shouldn't have gotten married. Marriage today is a joke.
2006-06-28 00:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait at least 4 years before having children-
2006-06-28 00:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by fscape444 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eat together at the table, it makes a big difference, sounds silly, but very true!! pray together too..always helps!
2006-06-28 00:22:41 · answer #8 · answered by kimmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
share your problems never hide anything feel like you can tell them anything make sure you tell them how much you appreciate them and no matter what never go to bed angry at each other
2006-06-28 00:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by christina j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its either there or its not but its up to you to decide if its there or not and if its not run away you can't change people not even yourself.
2006-06-28 00:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by n4il_p0lish2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋