The other day I was talking to my friend about what exactly I wanted in a guy and what kind of relationship I wanted to have with him.It suddenly hit me that everything I described to her described my ex boyfriend and it's like I never realized it before.He's getting married in 3 months and I'm thinking he can't possibly the one.What are the odds of finding someone else who fits my description of what I want in a guy as perfectly?I really don't want it to be him because he's taken and we drive each other crazy.I'm really scared that it's him with him getting married this soon and all.It just occured to me that everything I wanted in a relationship I had with him but I threw it all away because I was scared to commit.What do I do?How can I know for sure if he's the one?
2006-06-27 16:55:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he's getting married - apparently he's moved on.
u should do the same
he's happy now - BE HAPPY FOR HIM
if u really love him let him live his life and let him get married
2006-06-27 16:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by dvlndskyz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only you can answer your question. Depending on the level of your relationship, you may talk to him about closure. On his side, there seems to have been, but you are still out there. Ask him candidly what was it that went wrong. Wish him the best, and don't interfere with what he has now. Sometimes we make mistakes. Let us learn from them. There are over 6 billion people on the planet. I'm sure at least one half a billion are eligible for you. If you can search through a half a billion eligible people and not find Mr. Right, then the problem is you.
Use this time to really consider how you can be the best you for you, and then you'll be able to offer something to someone else.
I wish you well.
P.S. Look at my questions and you'll see that I found the right one for me, and daily search for ways to let her know this. I've been in many relationships, trying to make them work. I'm glad that I did not settle for less than what I have now. My wife is the greatest.
2006-06-28 00:06:21 · answer #2 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him honestly how you feel. Let him know you're not trying to make him uncomfortable, and regardless of his response you will be alright.
If nothing else, it is worth you talking to him so you can get closure.
You know the saying "you don't know what you got until it's gone" ohhh so true so true. But just make sure that's really it..... that you aren't just making him out to be "the one" in your mind, because you realize that he has moved on and there is a possibility that you two won't ever be together. I mean what if you told him how you felt and he says maybe he will put off the wedding.... he want's to be with you again..... will your feelings remain the same??? Or will the fact that he drives you crazy (and any other thing) make YOU not want to commit again???
You're dealing with the lives of 3 people - do it with care and caution.
2006-06-28 00:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by addicted2stamping 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you need to rethink what you want in a guy because if he was "The One" than you two would still be together. He is getting married and you need to remember the bad when you think of the good. You will find someone that is "The One" . You may be surprised that "The One" is nothing like what you though he would be and he's even more perfect than you could have thought up.
2006-06-28 00:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by Desiree S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think that if he was "the one" you would have realized it when you were dating? Let him go you want him because you can't have him. If you did get him back you would re discover the things you left him for in the first place. Besides- I don't subscribe to the "the one" philosophy. I mean if there was only one person for every one person, with over five billion people in the world chances are your "soulmate" is cooking walrus over a dung fire in the arctic right now.
2006-06-28 00:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by Christine J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he truly is the one, he won't go through with the marriage on his own. dont disturb his wedding plans. if they break up and he comes back to you, then its meant to be. but if he gets married and he moves on, you'll need to move on too. im sure there are plenty of other guys out there that fit the description of your perfect guy.
2006-06-28 00:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was truly the one, you'd be together right now, not him getting married to someone else - so he must be The Second!!
Keep looking, The One is out there....
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2006-06-28 00:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has found someone else, just wait, if it is meant to be either the marriage will be called off or a divorce will happen and you will get back togther and if it doesn't there is someone out there for you
2006-06-27 23:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by Pandora Tommorow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he was the one you two would be together maby he needs to get married to realise a few things marriage doesnt always work and it teaches us a lesson let him be and stay away from him if he and you are meant to be then he will find his way back to you and you two will be together
2006-06-28 00:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he were the one, you'd still be there. You can't choose qualities and then look for someone. You choose someone you're attracted to and then live with their qualities. That is a real relationship!
2006-06-28 00:00:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋