I don't know how to make myself feel better about...myself. I mean I have been told I am 'hott' and I have had more than a few boyfriends but I still don't feel good about myself,WHY??
2006-06-27 16:49:37 · 16 answers · asked by jennjenn09 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
self confidence and love is not found by having boyfriends or in being 'hott', it is found by feeling good about oneself.
Have you tried being your own person and stop being what everyone else wants you to be?
The only way to have self confidence and self love is to be true to yourself.
Try doing that, then you will be able to attract people who love you for the person you really are instead of the image you are trying to project and failing to.
2006-06-27 16:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by mystic_herbs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wont find self confidence from other people, even boyfriends. If anything boyfriends will only reduce your self confidence because you can get caught up in making them happy and serving them. The best thing to help a person feel more sure of themselves is to have a few close friends. I know that this contradicts the part that says you can only find happiness and satisfaction from within yourself, but close friendships really help. Maybe you need to have, and conquer, some more challenges in your life. Are you old enough to get a job?
Being 'hott' isnt enough. Physical means nothing to the person inside the shell. I know this girl who is simply gorgeous, but she doesnt know it. She has the personality of a door mat. Take some hard courses at school, work at them, and succeed. You should feel better about yourself at overcoming something hard.
2006-06-28 00:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is from experience...I once heard that singing is acting, and so is self confidence, in my opinion. If you act self confidant, people will begin to believe you really are, and soon, it becomes a part of you and you believe it yourself! So be an actress (in your mind anyway) and soon you will convince yourself. Let "I can do this" be your mantra. Then do it! Many years ago I was afraid in my driver's ed class. Another student was fearful, lacked confidence. The teacher said to her, gruffly, "You, you have no confidence," and then looked at me and said, "and you, you have too much confidence." I had to laugh inside, "if he only knew how afraid I was," but I faked him totally, and guess what...that taught me I could fake self confidence it I wanted to, and have done so many, many times. Now I don't have to fake it...well, most of the time anyway. Try it.
2006-06-28 00:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by Survey girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cultivate a sense of self esteem and determination. Self confidence, as it is called self, could be attained by self only and not by anyone else. Remove the negative impulses of beging hot or not feel good etc. If yoy are hot, why and what for you should not feel good when you have more than few b/fs!
2006-06-28 00:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had the same problem for most of my life. Confidantes doesn't come from people complementing you or having many relationships. It's from believing your self. Don't be a stranger. No one is judging you on how you look, and if they are, who cares they don't know who you are.
2006-06-27 23:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by Dragonpack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the ppl around you and in your life havent given you enuff good comments in your life, said something to lift you up when you neede it or didnt tell you you looked good when you asked.
tell yourself everyday you are bueatiful and everyone likes me as you look in the mirror maybe that will help you its important to have self confidence!!
2006-06-27 23:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's people brain washing your mind with negative ideas about yourself, making you loose your confidence. Most of the time, this people are looser angry with their lack of achievement and wants turns everyone like them, to makes themselves better...perhaps they think will be less losers, if everyone around is like them.
I suggest you to clean up your friendship, try to be around of positive people, those whom support your dreams and encourage you.
2006-06-28 00:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i to go through the same thing. its hard to get out of that funk. the thing i believe it to be is that it is easier to tell yourself your not good looking, cause if u tell yourself you are and someone disagrees with u, it will hurt u and im guessing u dont want to get hurt. go out on a limb, i bet your a great girl inside and out, and u should be willing to make that bet too.
2006-06-27 23:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by Dustin G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all comes from inside dear.......Get up in the morning, look in the mirror and say to yourself "I am beautiful and a creation of God and this will be a great day." I do it every day and I rarely have a bad one!!!!!!!! Take care honey!!!!!!!
2006-06-27 23:53:37 · answer #9 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont listen to that ********... I know exactly what your talking about. I figured it out... if your physical appearance isnt the problem then it might be that you doubt yourself... confidence is about trusting yourself... You really have to believe in yourself.
2006-06-27 23:54:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋