how do i cope?

Question

my mom wants us 2 move. but i just started middle school and i have made a best friend, i have lived in this house my whole life y should i move now.

Answer 1

I know it is hard and scary to start over, but sometimes it can end up being exciting and the best thing that could ever happen to you. You and your best friend can still remain friends no matter where you are. Try to keep an open mind and trust that your mom is doing what is best for your family.

Answer 2

Why does your mom want you to move? Does she have a good reason? I know it must be hard especially since you are starting middle school. Some kids move all the time and get used to it. In your case you haven't had that experience so I'm sure you are worried. How far does she want to move? I get the impression it probably means you have to change schools. Since you haven't had to move before, I suspect she has a reason and has thought this through. I'm not going to tell you that you'll make a new best friend (although you probably will) because it can be hard to make new friends. The only thing you can do is tell your mom how you feel, listen to her reasons, and make the best of it.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

When you're in middle school it's very hard to want to move. From what you have said, I gather that it's hard for you to make good friends. Try to look at this as a chance to do just that. The world is a much smaller place when you make all different kinds of friends.

How far will you be moving? If it's just to another neighborhood that will involve you going to another school, you will still be close enought to visit with your new best friend. If it's farther away, try to stay in touch with this friend by phone, letters, and email (IM's too). When school breaks come around, visit with this friend or have them visit you and meet your new friends!

Learning all about a new place can be a lot of fun. You may bring fun to the kids that live in that area too because when you grow up in a certain area, sometimes you don't pay attention to all there is to do there.

Make sure to talk this over with your mom and let her know about how you feel. Find out her reasons for wanting to move too. Maybe something can be worked out? Who knows, maybe she's wanting to move because she wants to make things better for you all (like she'll be able to get a better job to give you a better home and way of life). I know it's hard to talk to your parents sometimes, but in the long run, it's the best thing you can do.

Good luck with your move, if it happens, and I hope you make a lot of good new friends!

Answer 4

I can only say that it will probably help you later in life. Change is inevitable. How well you cope with change is an important thing. You will certainly make new friends, have new experiences and open up a whole new life. Make the most of the possibilities. Keep in touch with your friend. Take pictures of your house. These will be great memories for you down the road. I know it's sad now, but you will look back with joy and wonder how life could have been and how great it has become.

Answer 5

First of all, I'm sorry to here that you have to go thru the moving stage. It happens alot to kids your age and it's hard to adapt to. I used to be a military brat and never stayed in one place for more than 2 or 3 years. But I loved getting the chance to see new scenery.
Many people are upset they stay in the same house and town for their whole lives. Believe me it's not the end of the world, keep in contact with your best friend. Your lucky, you have internet access at your age. That best-friend's an email away, a photo away, a smile away.
So don't be discouraged. Keep your head up. When you leave, you get the chance to share the circle of friendship with a few more additional new friends. Form a club that includes your best-friend so your new friends can get to know her too. It'll feel like she's always their with you.

Best of luck.

Answer 6

I've been in your shoes. Our home had to be bulldozed so that a highway could be built. I was 12 and had to change schools. I won't lie to you..it was very hard. I missed my old school and friends but i made a great new friend! I didn't know at the time but my new friend turned out to be that one great friendship everyone talks about. I'm 27 years old now and i still have that one best friend!
Moving will be tuff but you will have good things come out of it!

ps: it was even hard for me to move when i got married! change is never easy...but will make you stronger

Answer 7

Keep in-touch with your best friend and make more where you're going next.

You will.

You're going to make alot of moves in your life and have to begin seeing each as an opportunity to make new friends and experience new things.

Your family is your home, and you'll always have them. The more you move the more you'll come to realize that.

I'm 41, own homes in Virginia, in Spain and will soon own one in Sydney, Australia. My girlfriend has three sons and I'm already thinking about what an adventure it would be to move them between those homes each year.

They'd make friends in all three areas, in all three cultures, and would renew their friendships every three years throughout their lives ... and they'd be able to participate in all of the world's sports activities and eventually attend university wherever they wished.

Change is always hard, at first, but you're almost always made better and stronger by it.

Keep your chin up and stay close to your family. You'll be fine.

Answer 8

I have moved more times than I can count in my 19 years, and it is always hard. I have heard that moving rates as high as a death in the family on the human emotions scale. Try to keep in touch with your friends and much as you can. It will take time to get adjusted into your new home, but eventually, you will make new friends. Middle school is an especially hard time to make such a drastic change, but you'll make it!

Answer 9

Moving does not mean you will lose your current ties. It will mean new ties for you as well. And you can still keep in touch with your best friend, by phone, by mail and through the net.

Through this all, remember that your family should be the most important part of your life.

Answer 10

I cope by rockclimbing, swimming or biking. You have to pay attention to what you are doing that you don't really dwell on the bad stuff and it releases stress. Rockclimbing definitely puts things in perspective especially when you hanging off the side of a huge rock 500ft up with nothing between yourself and the ground.