we have 1 son and i'm 6 months pregnant and i want it to work between us but he doesnt really want to cuz he says he tired of my s.h.i.t. i tried kissing his a.s.s. i tried everything? I dont know what to do i've cried i cann't really be stressing my self cuz of my pregnancy i really love him alot.
2006-06-27 16:27:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I know it's hard to leave someone who you really love. But it sounds like you'd be better off without him. Give yourself a chance to meet someone you really cares about you. It will be better for both of your children if you have a caring relationship with whoever you're with.
2006-06-27 16:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by Susan W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't want to be with you anymore then theres really nothing you can do about it. maybe he just needs some time. men are very sensitive even though they don't show there emotions most of the time. try to give him some time. if that doesn't work then he isn't the right person for you. you need to find a man who loves you for you. and doesn't mind your s.h.i.t. and dont kiss his a$$. i was in a relationship for 3 years then all of a sudden he doesn't love me anymore. so take my advice and give him time. don't stress over it, its not healthy. your pregnant you don't need this right now. just try to focus on some thing else. go out and buy your self new clothes or go to a spa. relax!!! i hope everything works out for you!! ;)
2006-06-27 23:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by rocker_chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he told you what $h1t he's tired of? Sit down with him. If he has a ligitimate list of complaints listen to him and come to a comprimise. Maybe he doesn't like the way you act about something he does, if you know why you do what he doesn't like you can talk it out. But don't leave your list at home! If he has a behavior you don't like, address it tactfully and sincerely. If you two can honestly sit down and have a frank open discussion about what is bothering the both of you, maybe you can pull it through. If it seems like you're drowning or you're not getting anywhere and he's willing, get a councelor or therapist or some professional unbiased third party to lend a hand. If you have exhausted your possibilities and he still insists its over, then you can't control his decisions. Be respectful of his choice, even if it rips you up inside (you can scream into your pillow and punch your matress later when no one is around). Ultimately you have to have a amicable relationship with him for the good of your children, they are your first responsibility and you need to do whatever you can to keep the peace in front of them. Explain things to them as matter of factly as possible if daddy has to go, leave it at that. They will respect you for it later. You might also want to look into talking to someone by yourself. I've been where you are and as much as I faught the idea of talking to someone about my troubles and my baby's dad, I did and it helped me relax through my pregnancy.
2006-07-09 23:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried sitting down and talking to him just you and him, nobody else? The best advice I can give is to listen to him and not get defensive if he says something that you want to retort. Let him have his say and then give your explanation and/or feelings on the issue.
It sounds like there are some underlying issues going on in the relationship that has made him not trust you or be with you anymore, or as you put it deal with your, well yeah you know what i mean...maybe counseling would help, its worth a shot.
Good luck, hope everything works out!
2006-06-27 23:36:37 · answer #4 · answered by curious me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make much sense staying in that relationship if u r the only 1 that wants 2 b in it. U should move on 4 ur sake & the kids sake. Kids can sense tension between their parents. Find some1 that will love u 4 u & accept u with all ur faults cuz nobody's perfect.
2006-07-10 10:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by triniallstar_4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same question can people answer it for me too i am just 7 months pregnant its my first i am 19 and my man has a 6 month daughter and we have been broken up since april 1st he says he does want it to work out but then the next day he tells me im just a problom for him most of the time he actually tells me he wants to try to make it work is when i have done something to make him mad or upset him and then hes always saying i was thinking or i really wanted but then i ****** up so i have to start all over again. i have been an emotional wreck since his daughter was born in jan and it just got worse when he left me with bills that i couldnt pay now my credit is ****** but i keep trying and not giving up
2006-07-10 02:58:53 · answer #6 · answered by kiko's lil mija porvida 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men just want out and there isn't anything you can do to change that. If you have honestly tried everything, then he may not want it to work. But, there is no sense in staying miserable. Your son and unborn child will be effected by it in some way or another.
2006-06-27 23:41:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do whats best for you and the kids, if he won't act right then kick his a** out tonight. you don't have to kiss any grown persons butt to make anything work, he made those kids too and if he feels like being a part is best for him then let him go. God said a man should support and provide for his family and if he don't then let him go..you can do bad by yo self and if he don't take care of the kids voluntarily then do it in-voluntarily (courts)
2006-07-10 09:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am goin throught the same thing right now! i am 6 months pregnant and all me and my husband do is get on each others nerves! but i know its mainly me because of all my mood swings but to me its just something they have to deal with. talking about it may help alittle but as soon as ur done with ur sorry's and i love you's just wait 5 min and u will back at it again!! its all part of being pregnant!!
2006-07-09 00:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by ananda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him and he really loves you, then yes you should try to make it work. But if not, then no. I am going through about the same thing right now!
2006-06-27 23:32:27 · answer #10 · answered by homicyde4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋