My ems partner is a married man he keeps hitting on me and telling me he has a open relationship with his wife when it comes to other women. He keeps making suggestions that he would like to have sex with me. I have caught myself thinking about him as well but i have not acted on thease thoughts. I did let him rub my back and it felt good but i stopped it at that because i knew what would happen if i dident. He asked me to kiss him before i left and i told him no. I feel myself getting weak. I dont know what i should do.
2006-06-27 16:17:30 · 58 answers · asked by paramedic9742 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Rubbish, all these people forcing thier morals on you. If you feel a need to sleep with him, and you want too, do it. Yes, he may be married, but, he is not going to stop looking just because you turn him down. If you seduced him, then you are at fault, if harmless flirtation turned into something else, that is nature. You know that this is just a physical thing and nothing will come out of it, but a little fun, if your ok with that,and can deal with it at work, then have fun. Guess what people, the wife knows, she just prefers not to admit it, get real. This woman is not a home wrecker of any kind, and you should not be bashing her.
2006-06-27 19:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 5⤊ 6⤋
well first of all i'm glad that u've been able to control urself in this situation. U may have found urself attracted to this man but the fact remains he's married. Obviously he has no respect for his wife because he's out there pursuing other women. Just because he tol u they have an open marriage (which may not even be true) that still doesn't make it right to sleep with him. There is a such thing as havin respect for yourself. I think if u willing lay down with a married man and he's not ur husband then ur just as wrong as he is. He is a dog but U don't have to stoop that low. Find urself someone who isn't already taken. Let him go find someone else to mess around wit (no doubt he will)..
2006-06-27 16:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first and foremost...this guy is a sleaze. Do you really want to get into bed with someone like that? If nothing else, have more self-respect than to think that this is the best you can find. There are some great guys out there. They just take a little looking. Don't settle for this freakshow.
Also, he has no business touching you regardless of how "open" his marriage may be. That comment also makes me wonder if his wife is aware that they have an open marriage?
Regardless of his wife's knowlegde of the situation, don't bother with him. He's an absolute scumball who isn't worth your attentions or flirtations.
2006-06-27 16:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by Bob S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you should. It would be more trouble than it's worth. It would only resort to heart ache. Do you really want to be a homewrecker? If he would cheat on his wife, what would be different with you? He most likely won't be leaving his wife for you, so I don't see the point. Find somebody who is single and not in it just for the sex. If I were you, I would ask for a new partner immediately and report sexual harassment. And if you have the guts, I would call his wife. Good luck! Make good choices!!!!!!!!
2006-06-27 16:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by lala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you ask a question like this there are going to be a whole lot of people who tell you that you are a whore and a home wrecker if you sleep with this guy. Forget about the fact that he is married, the more important thing here is that you work with him in close proximity everyday. If you sleep with him (which I think you will) you are making your work environment weird, what if you sleep with him and you don't like it and you have to look at him everyday?? You are going to be very uncomfortable around him. There is nothing wrong with a little flirting etc I mean you do spend all day driving around together in an ambulance right? Whatever you do think about it very carefully first...
2006-06-27 16:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by auzzimama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I read some of these answers and you could not report him to your supervisors for sexual harrasment at this time. In order for sexual harrasment to stick, you have to confront the behavior and let him know it is not welcomed. Letting him rub your back is not letting him know it is not unwelcomed. Something about EMS because I was having a very good sexual relationship with a married female paramedic. It seems at least where I live, 2 partners of opposite sex have a lot of time on their hands alone which can open the door to this type of relationship. Maybe you shouldn't go for it. if you find yourself thinking then fantasize and please yourself and leave it at that.
2006-06-27 16:26:24 · answer #6 · answered by Baghdaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to be kidding me? with all those fish in the sea why u want one that has a hook in his mouth? Have you asked his wife if they have an open relationship? He may be telling you this to get you in the sack. Come on have a lil self respect & dignity, you don't really want a man who's taken? I'd tell him that his advances make you feel uncomfortable and he's putting you in a very awkward position. If he's that horny tell him to go home & get the goods and leave you alone. Sorry to be blunt but it's the truth
2006-06-27 16:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by ooolala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't help this man cheat. Think about how his wife may feel if he isn't being straight with you. Even so, you don't want anything to do with that. Tell him NO. The only reason you should have sex with a married man is if you are the one he's married to.
2006-06-27 16:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by thewildeman2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you my opinion as to why getting involved with a married man is risky:
1) You won't have him completely. You will have to share him with his spouse. And there is no guarantee that he'll leave his spouse for you.
2) If the married man has sex with anyone other than their spouse (whether they claim it being open relationship or what have you) they will more likely do it behind your back as well with someone else.
3) If you work with this man and end up having sexual relations, you are putting your career at risk. Haven't you heard the saying "Don't mix business with pleasure?". Either you or he will have to start looking for another job somewhere else if this continues because either one of you or both of you will get fired. And when either one of you gets fired, how will you be able to explain your termination when you go on other job interviews as to "Why were you terminated?". Either he or you will end up resenting each other.
4) When you get involved with a married man, you are missing out on other relationship opportunities with other people who are worth your time.
5) You're relationship is based on a lie. If he lies alot to his spouse, he will lie to you. And if a relationship is based on a lie, the sex won't be so great.
6) Open relationships never work. If you see someone else simultaneously while you are seeing the married man, either one of them or both of them will resent you for it. And you will lose them both.
2006-06-27 17:16:11 · answer #9 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...have all the sex you want with a married man...as long as that married man is married to YOU!!!
That is a stupid question. Not only are you willing to screw up his marriage along with him, but you're risking screwing up a working relationship in a very intense, high-stress job. If you guys "broke up" what the hell would you do then????
Ask for a change of partners --- FAST.
2006-06-27 16:20:16 · answer #10 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have sex with a married man...think of how his wife would feel. They may be having marital problems, and he is trying to take the easy way out; keep telling him, over and over if you have to, that it's not a good idea.
I would suggest finding a man who isn't attached.
2006-06-27 16:20:41 · answer #11 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋