I have been getting together with some old friends of mine on Wednesday nights for about three years. We hang out, drink, play games and shoot the crap together. Once in a while someone can't make it but life goes on.
As of late, I have been playing in a band, which we play out in bars every two or three weeks. Well, band practice enfringes on my friends Wednesday night get togethers. I let them the guys know in advance if I can't make it.
Well last week I asked my friends twice if we could offically move our Wednesdays to another night because it was conflicting with my band practice. Both times I got no response. Then when Wednesday came around and I didn't show up, they verbally attacked me. Saying that I dumped my old friends for my new bandmates. And some other statements that were way out of line.
Am I in the wrong here? Am I being unreasonable?
2006-06-27 15:52:53 · 12 answers · asked by Blackbird2004 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When I said that we play out in bars every two to three weeks, I meant that we have shows every two week or so. I might have been unclear on that before.
2006-06-28 01:42:21 · update #1
Sometimes life is about making choices, and setting aside old things for new things.
It appears that you have made some choices for yourself, to go a new direction, and your old friends are having a hard time with that. If they are not willing to accomodate you (and they may be wondering why you don't get the band to switch practice nights), then you will have to decide whether to just go on and do what you are doing, even if it means losing some friends over it.
I am guessing that you feel real good about the direction your life is taking ... talk to these people, and those that are true friends will do what they can to continue the friendship, though you may see less of them. Let the rest go, and keep moving on.
2006-07-05 18:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You play with your band every 2-3 weeks? That leaves a lot of time for practice. Take Wednesdays off from practice, make that your official downtime day as a band. You can't tell me that taking 4 days off a month from practice is going to make a huge difference.
These people have been your friends for a long time, and this ritual is 3 years in the making. Are you willing to throw it all away?
2006-06-27 16:03:23 · answer #2 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's better to haven't any friends than delinquents. they are not going to be actual friends. they gets you into difficulty or make you finally finally end up feeling worse. the wonderful thank you to strengthen self is to open the bible and discover God. learn what that's that He expects from you and the affection he has for you. that's a roadmap to existence. all the solutions are in there. we've been shaped in comparable to God. learn that photograph. come across a interior of sight church that has a good teen software and circulate via those issues with christians young human beings dealing with an identical issues.
2016-12-08 13:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your not being unreasonable at all. You friends are !!! If you found something you like to do and your friends don't support you, just what kind of friends are they ??? For them to let loose on you was wrong and you should tell them so. They have no right to pass judgment on you because you can't play on Wednesday night with them. They know why and choose to do nothing to support you, screw them !!!
Good luck
2006-06-27 16:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are in the wrong exactly but before you joined the band you knew about Wed nights. So why couldn't you work out a different schedule with the band?
2006-06-27 15:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by dkhae1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you were not being unreasonable!!!! There is more to live than just that one set of friends, I mean, you do have more interests than just sitting around the crap together. Dont worry, your ok. You did no wrong!
2006-07-09 13:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by addybme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in the wrong here. If these "friends" aren't willing to be supportive of your band, then they're not really your friends. Real friends are there for you unconditionally, and that is very rare.
2006-07-07 20:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are moving on in life they are not to that point yet. You are not wrong. They are being childish but isn't that what all of you are doing on these nights, being children? Continue to move on with your life. Good Luck!
2006-06-27 16:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong.
Best of luck and God bless.
2006-06-27 15:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by bobhayes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not unreasonable at all...if they really are your friends then they should understand..
2006-06-27 16:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by angiel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋