we don't see each other very often but when we do it brings up so many feelings. I know he is still attracted to me but I do not say anything as I couldn't handle him saying no. He is the only man i have ever been with and I don't find myself attracted to anyone else like I am with him.
2006-06-27 15:24:13 · 13 answers · asked by wanting him 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Here's the ugly truth about marriages - he won't want to have sex with you if you don't have his respect. If you just throw yourself at him all the time and tell him how vulnerable you are, etc. he will eventually think you are uninteresting ... unless you are also an amazingly accomplished professional woman who has it all going on at every level. See, we men want and love the woman who is not easily intimidated and requires some effort to impress.
Honest, deep intimacy is a wonderful thing but it can only happen if you start on the journey with mutual respect. A friend told me that the best marriage is a stalemate between equally matched adversaries. Look in the mirror ... tell yourself the truth. Don't be his doormat. You are worth more than that, just find out why you believe me.
2006-06-27 15:38:49 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why is he estranged? If he's with someone else... back off, not cool.
Also, if he is attracted to you but won't have sex with you, then there is some other reason he won't be with you.
The reason you feel stronger with him is cuz you feel comfortable as youve never been with anyone else.
If you really just gotta get him to have sex with you... then you gotta figure out how to get him in the mood when he's around you or how to stir up that old feeling for him.
Try leaving something around or on you (jewelry..etc.) that will remind him of a HOT time you were together, then maybe just comment on it without being obvious. See where it goes!
2006-06-27 15:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you estranged? Thats the main question in your little scenario.
Normally there is a good reason people split up. If whatever caused it can be fixed why hasn't it yet? If it can't, then why complicate things further by starting up sex with him again?
Think hard about this. Are there children involved? Think about what this would do to them, getting their hopes up.
2006-06-27 15:37:52 · answer #3 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main question is....Is the only reason you want this man in your life to have sex with him? Why not try to see each other more and work on your relationship before just hopping into bed? If all you want is sex, go find yourself a boyfriend.
2006-06-27 16:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by fatamorgana_0 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open up..., tell him what you want in life from him, ask him how can he be a part of your sex life together. Ask him if he can find a job close by so that he can stay home with you and have more intimacy. Communication is the success of a good sex life.
2006-06-27 15:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by frustration 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think very carefully before you approach him. First, he may -- as you already fear -- turn you down. Second, (and this may very well be worse) he may accept your proposal for sex. And, then (depending on the circumstances of your divorce in the first place) can spin you into another chaotic cycle with him that at the end may not be worth the sexual pleasure you may derive by being with him.
2006-06-27 15:30:24 · answer #6 · answered by Randa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL him, it's better to have your dreams shattered in front of you than being always this anxious. The worst he can say is no, then you'll have some closure. You didn't tell why you don't see each other often, but if you love him that much...better speak before other girl tells him she loves him
2006-06-27 15:31:35 · answer #7 · answered by AMBER D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there before! I found that if he doesn't want you he is getting it somewhere else. That might not be true in all cases, but I also found out they want what they can't have! I am not giving advice on cheating or things like that, but make yourself unavailable to him and he might come around.
2006-06-27 15:41:15 · answer #8 · answered by reginie@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to tell him how you feel, and risk rejection. But you are already rejected, so you have nothing to loose. If he feels you two are worth another try, he'll probably tell you. If he says no, you are no worse off than you are now....... Good luck, sweetie -- nothing ventured, nothing gained....
2006-06-27 15:32:08 · answer #9 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u really still love him why dont u go on vication together on a cruise or somewhere nice that may renew ur relationship and ur love.good luck
2006-06-27 15:29:03 · answer #10 · answered by sasa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋