Can you have more then 1 true love?

Question

I had a revolving door relationship with my true love every 4 yrs or so (total of 20 years)but it never worked out, now we are both married to others, but you always wonder what if about the one that got away.

Answer 1

no I think that is impossible.

Answer 2

If your thoughts are with someone who is not really there for you in your everyday life, and you have someone right there who loves you and believes you love them, then you are living in a fantasy world. This is not fair to the person you're with, but also not fair to yourself.

Forget the other person. They would be with you if they really wanted to be. That is the answer to "what if". The answer is no. They are not there with you, and so that is how the story goes. Try paying attention to what is going on right in front of you. Give your whole self to the real relationship you have now. The other person is married, too, so they have someone who they are (or should be) committed to, and it isn't you. Get over it.

They truth of the matter is, for your "true love", you are just "a little on the side" and not their primary relationship. You are possibly a safety net. In case other relationships don't work, they know you'll always be there waiting. Why not realize that things never work out for a reason, and stop relying on your imagined relationship? It will never be, because after 20 years, it would have happened by now.

Answer 3

I believe you can fall in love with someone else but you only ever have "ONE TRUE LOVE". There's just something different about it. A feeling I guess. Sometimes no matter how much you love each other, for reasons beyond your control you can't be together so you go your separate ways and find someone else. But still, deep down inside maybe or in the back of your mind tucked away for those days when you need a little pick me up, you think about them. Your true love. The one that got away I guess. Funny thing is they are probably thinking the very same thing!

Answer 4

Nothing is forever--even marriage. You either die or break up. Love is a choice. If you are open to truly falling in love with someone new, and are truly loved by someone, he is your true love--until something else comes along.

I've done the "can't get over the ex-boyfriend" thing. It hurts, and you can end up hurting someone else that cares deeply about you if you don't let go.

Heather Headley said it best in her song..."In My Mind"
"When you love something, you got to let it go. And if it comes back it means so much more. If it never does, at least you will know, that it was something you had to go throuigh to grow."

The great Iyanla wrote in a chapter in her book, "Until Today!"...

"When you have learned all that you can learn in a relationship, its season will end. When you have healed what you can into the relationship to heal, it's purpose will be fulfilled. When a relationship is over, it is over! Hanging on will only make the days ahead darker."

God Bless...
~J

Answer 5

If your asking this you have not really found your true love.Me myself I have found myself getting a little interested in other females but the thing is when I look into my fiancee's eyes she still and always will make my knees weak to the core.All you really have to do is think about how people make you feel.I am 23 so you figure hey all people my age are the same still trying to find the perfect person but I have and always will no matter what happens.She is my true loves knows everything she can about me and I will 20 years for now feel the same way towards her she makes my heart melt.So you just need to sit back and think about everything by yourself without interruptions only you can choose your favorite person in life.

Answer 6

I think you can have more than one true love... just hopefully not at the same time!

I hear ya with the revolving door love... been there. I guess there are people you are meant to love, but not end up with. Focus on your spouse, and give him/her the most wonderful life together you can possibly imagine. The one you marry should be your true love forever...

Answer 7

I have always been in 4 yr relationships starting when i was 13 now I have my fiance and I don't think about any of the old ones I guess I have the one I should never get away??

Answer 8

Hmmm I think there are different degrees of loving someone. There's the way you love someone you can never have: it's more the idea of them that you're in love with because they're a goal you'll never attain; it's one of those crazy human traits. Then there's the way you love someone you've built a relationship with: you love them because they're there for you, they take care of you, you know you can count on them, and lots more good things like that. (If none of those things are true in your case then the second person is no good for you at all and you shouldn't be with them.)

So, in answer to your question I'm somewhat on the fence. You can truly love the idea you have of that unattainable person but you can also truly love the person you're with. However, I think that you eventually realize which person you actually love.

[The use of "you" in this answer is a general "you", not specifically "you the person asking this question".]

Answer 9

That's a tough one.

Well I believe that there is only 1 true love per person, but there can be many deep loves. I am where you used to be right now, with an on again off again relationship. Obviously they mean a lot to you and you to them if u keep coming back for each other. But wait and see. If you two can move on and be happy for each other, then it's not true love. But if somehow you two come back to each other, maybe it's meant to be. Somehow, you asking this question makes me think you still want them, and maybe, just maybe, it is true love.

Answer 10

Don't sell yourself short! Yes you can have more than one "true love". I know it sounds wrong but you are the exact example! It is possible to love someone that is unavailable (for lots of reasons) and that you will never get a chance at. So you move on to the next "love" and fall in love with him. You truly love your current guy but still remember the love that the first guy stimulated in you. You love the memories but stick with your true "true love", the one that wanted you!

Answer 11

I feel you on this one. I too am guilty of repeatedly having sexual relations with all of my X's. When I'm on the road (I'm a professional musician) I actually get involved in full fledged "We're going to be together forever" relationships knowing damn well I'm married and going home to her in 3 or 4 months. But I love to love and can't stop. So my answer is YES!