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I am pregnant. My mom has known I have always wanted to get pregnant since I was 15. And I finally found a guy that I am happy with and I honestly didnt mean to get pregnant. But I am going to keep the baby. He wants to keep the baby too. The first time I went out with my boyfriend my mom didnt like him. She knows that I am back with him because he always calls the house now and asks for me not my cousin any more. I know my mom is going to be disappointed but how do I tell her without her flipping out on me. I am 17 years old and my boyfriend just turned 19 on the 22nd. And I will be 18 by the time I give birth. So I know for a fact..my mom, step-dad, dad, and step-mom are going to be a little disappoint because I still have one year left of school. Can somebody please help me? I know you all are probably going to come out with something that I am to young to be having a baby. And I know that..but I dont believe in abortions and I sure aint going to give the baby up for adption. HELP!!

2006-06-27 15:00:37 · 29 answers · asked by xo_adore_you_5606_ox 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

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sit her down and tell her look mom i know you love me and i love you too but i am pregant and i am sorry if i let you down. hope that works. good luck.

2006-06-27 15:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by Girly♥ 7 · 0 0

Your not too young to have a baby... it may not have been the smartest decision (to have sex without a condom) but your pregnant now and you are on your way to making your own little family.... you made the right decision however to not get pregnant at 15! There are sooooo many women out there that get pregnant early in life and still lead successful lives. Take your parents out to dinner with your boyfriend and let them know there as to not have a scene. Tell them that you will not have an abortion and adoption is also out of the question. Let them know that YOU are in control... no matter what your age, because this is YOUR child. Tell them that although you are thier responsibility up to the age of 18 you would appriciate them recognizing the fact that you are close to being 18 and even after you are 18 you would like thier help if they are willing to offer it. They will be your #1 babysitter and will probably do it for free! Ask them to help you finish school because you are going to need to get your highschool diploma in order to get any kind of job in the future.... you can get your GED as well. Try to get some vocational training as well. You can work part-time and go to school part-time. Your man can work too. this will provide the needed income and you will be able to better yourself. Get a plan for your lives first. Know exactly how you will pay for medical, start your medical if you can, get a plan for school, research it. They won't be happy but they will be happier if you know what your plan is for the future. Good luck and congratulations. I am sure you will be a great mommy.... I always dreamt of having kids since I was a young young child myself I think around 12 I started thinking about it. I had my first a month before my 20th birthday and I love him to death! Check out my 360 page to see him! Email me if you need to talk or if you have some questions~

2006-06-27 15:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by 20mommy05 5 · 0 0

Just sit her down and tell her straight up that you accidentally got pregnant and are definately going to keep the baby and you really need her love and support in this no matter what she thinks. I got pregnant when I was 16 and when I told my parents, they kicked me out and then moved to a different state, but if something bad like that happens to you, you can still have a good life. I graduated and am going to college even though my parents didnt think i would. Just prove them all wrong that you CAN and WILL raise this child right and then it wont matter what everyone else thinks. Good luck!

2006-06-27 15:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mischelle 4 · 0 0

I got pregnant at 17 with my son, who's 10 now. He was born when i was 18. His father and i did not have a strong relationship. We broke up b4 my son was born. I never regretted having my son. He means so much to me. It was and has been very very hard to raise him. My dad was very angry about the pregnancy my mom was sad and only said if i kept the baby it was ALL MINE. She would not buy anything 4 it or babysit. She said I could keep him I was going to do it alone. I did, I moved out when he was 4 months old. I've paid my own rent I've paid my own child care. It did cause me to lose any thought i had of college or having the best things in life. Now I'm almost 29 pregnant with my 3rd in a wonderful relationship AND I do have the things i always wanted now. I had to work way harder then i would have without kids to have the life i have. I strongly thought about adoption in the beginning. I could not think of life without my son now. In the end it as nothing to do with your parents or how they feel about it.

2006-06-27 15:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0 0

Just be honest with her. She'll be more hurt if she finds out from someone else or if you wait to tell her. Don't think you can't finish school either. It's a little harder but it can be done. I know because I did. I was the same age as you when I got pregnant. Your mom may be a little upset at first, but she'll get over it once she realizes what a wonderful gift that she's getting in return.
Congratulations and Good Luck!!!

2006-06-27 15:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

have you ever instructed your sister yet? which will be the first element i might want to do when you consider that she has been on your footwear before and per chance she supplies you you with some training on the thanks to aproach your mom. perchance have you ever and your boyfriend tell her jointly like a united the front. Ask your sister to be there with you for help too. Secondly, i don't comprehend the guidelines on your state on a even as yet see if WIC and welfare can help you out or maybe set ou up with someplace to stay. That way once you tell your mom if she reacts the way you assume her to you could clarify to her that you've assistance and that even although this became no longer contained in the plans for any of you at present, there's somewhat one coming quickly and make effective you rigidity the very incontrovertible actuality that your bf is going to be supportive. sturdy luck and God bless you and your toddler.

2016-10-13 21:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

18 is a good age to get preagent because you can play more with your child. well first of all you boyfiend better have a job so he can raise the child so he can supported instead of your mom. also you and your boyfriend have to tell your parents and his family that you are preagnent. that there going to be grandparent . at first there going to be mad for while and sad because there little qirl grew up and leaving the nest. but few days there were be happy because there going be grandparents and have a baby in the fsamily.don't bring baby in the world if you are sure he loves u and he is going to spend the rest of his life with u marry you.

2006-06-27 15:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Honey, just tell them. I had my son when I was 19, and yes I was out of school, but that didn't mean I was ready. If your family really loves you, they will be behind you and help you through the whole thing. My mom was VERY shocked, but then as time went by she got excited to have a grandson! Believe me, telling them sooner rather than later is the best thing for your soon to be new family!

2006-06-27 15:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by Stacy W 3 · 0 0

My sister got pregnant at 15. My mom was devasted. She went through many different emotions, but that did not mean she did not stop loving my sister. After the shock and hurt, they talked about it and my mom realized it was going to be o.k. So, the sooner you are honest with your mom, the better you will feel. Remember, no matter what kind of emotions she feels, she still loves you.

2006-06-27 15:30:54 · answer #9 · answered by cici 2 · 0 0

You just have to be honest i was 22 when i fell pregnant and i was still scared of telling my mum because i thought i would disappoint her but i knew i had to do it. I would suggest that you stop thinking about it and just tell her because the longer you leave it the harder it will be. She may be disappointed to begin with but I'm sure she will get over it pretty quickly. My son is now 2 and my mum loves him to bits and wouldn't change anything about him!

2006-06-27 15:06:58 · answer #10 · answered by bec 5 · 0 0

Best way to approach it is to set them all down in the living room, and just tell them. They will be more open and willing to help if you are brave enough to come to them in the beginning.... It would also be good to have the boyfriend there, because guarantees are going to need to be made by him. (support wise) This will really help the situation. If he is man enough to stand up for what he was a part of creating, he will earn more respect in the eyes of your folks.

2006-06-27 15:05:03 · answer #11 · answered by lovpayne 3 · 0 0

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