I tired to leave him twice (according to him) for a guy that I thought was a better match for me. He claims that I cheated on him because I had lied one day saying that I was with my family when I really was with this other guy (but I did nothing with him, I swear it) He is the love of my life, but he doesn't deserve someone like me. Should I tell him that and if so, then what should I say/do?
2006-06-27 14:50:56 · 20 answers · asked by Late-Nite 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, you should not tell him that you feel like you don't deserve him. Know why, because you do and so does he. No one is greater than another, please have the confidence and courage to like, even love yourself. Don't' nit pic your flaws. Focus on what is good and slowing work to change the things you want to improve upon. This is really a self-confidence issue and you can fix it by thinking differently.
LoOK, I'm going to tell you both something, ok? You both have the same problem to deal with and correct. Low self-esteem and insecurity. Communicate your love verbally and work this out.
Don't do the physical stuff, you both need to be mature and communicate and trust one another.
2006-06-27 14:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by watersprings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am confused... is he your ex boyfriend.... and you want him back? I think telling him you are not good enough for him is the wrong approach if you are tring to get back together with him. Saying he doesn't deserve someone like you makes you seem sad and desperate. You should be telling him all the great things that would make him crazy not to be with you. If you are going to have any sort of relationship with this guy you have to be honest. That means being upfront as to why you went with this other guy and that nothing happend and that you realized the mistake you made. Tell him that it took being being with the other guy to make you see how great a match the 2 of you are together. If you tell him he doesn't deserve someone like you leaves the door open for him to say yes, you're right seeya..... So I think you should just be honest and tell him all the reasons why he does deserve a girl like you and ask him if he is willing to try again this time no lies. If he is worth it and cares for you he will make it work, If he doesn't care for you then he'll say its over and you should move on. You can't be with someone who is not going to forgive you. Nobody is perfect and nothing happened
2006-06-27 22:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by scubagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you are honest enough. Although I would be pretty pissed if I were him, and you told me that.
Why doesn't he deserve you? Have you asked him? You are calling into question your motives for marrying him in the first place. And it doesn't look good that you lied either. You better sit down and work on your priorities. What do you want? Do you see a future with your man?
The fact that he hasn't left you and he thinks you cheated (rightly so...I would too) says volumes about him...and his commitment to you. Good Luck!
2006-06-27 21:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by brass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your guy wants to be away from you without hurting your feelings that is plain and simple no matter what anyone else says and this is coming from expierence.I do not think my fiancee is perfect for me because she puts up with my crap because I do not speak about my feelings and so forth.She wants me to but I can't because if I do I will go off the hinges.The reason I do not want to tell her is that I will get mad at her and do not want to see that look in her eyes that she is scared of me.I would never once hit a female but they still get scared and that is the worse feeling in the world to a guy that they will get scared.
2006-06-27 21:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by Førsâkëñ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen, u are too good for HIM! he doesn't deserve you! if he's accusing you of things you know you didn't do then he's no good. he's not the love of your life. the love of your life would have let by-gone be by-gones. and he's still holding on to the past. let him go. if anything he's trying to make you seem like the bad person when really he has a couple of lies of his own. he's your ex let him stay that way. don't sweat over it. now from the info. you gave us. that's the answer i got unless....... that's not everything......
2006-06-27 22:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by Twin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't tell him u don't deserve him because then he'll always think he's better than u, i know this is the last thing that u should do but u have to get over him...u need to show him that u DO love him the most and that u always have. think of something deep and personal and go to the ends of the earth to tell him how much u love him. let him know how much u care...
2006-06-27 21:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by cutebutcrazy2013 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you dont love him anymore and that is nothing between you two anymore then it is better for him and you to split up. There is no greater hurt than someone who is cheating on you. If you are going to stay with him then forget about other men and devote your life to making him happy and being able to trust you again
2006-06-27 21:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by ohio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should
and tell him that you don't deserve him, but also tell him why, otherwise he will think ur just saying that. you could tell him, "i feel that i haven't treated you right, the way you need to treated, and i feel that i don't deserve someone like you, i know you can do better, (this next part is optional) but if you feel that i do deserve you, i promise i won't do anything to hurt you again!"
hope it helped!
2006-06-27 21:54:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter how inferior u mite feel wen u love somebody u wan 2 be w/ them even if u feel lik u don deserve him.... so u gotta think bout if u do really wan2 b w/ him... but u shud open up and tell him bout ur insecurities and how u feel lik ur not good enough... cuz honestly if u tried 2 break up w/ him and he thinks u cheated and still hasn't broken up w/ u then he really does wan2 b w/ u and thats somethin u don wan2 giv up
2006-06-27 21:55:58 · answer #9 · answered by Marianne R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not good for him.
Just leave him alone and find a guy that acts like you do. Then you will know how it feels!
2006-06-27 21:54:37 · answer #10 · answered by LN has3 zjc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋