i had to talk about my past of domestic violence so i can heal ... but all i do is cry and cant even finish the story...
2006-06-27 14:25:49 · 22 answers · asked by gengen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ya! I try to force myself never to cry because I come close to breaking down everyday. I've had such a miserable life I really can't believe what I've been through and the last 8 years has been absolutely hell. I just can't do this any more.After reading your profile made me realize what I don't have.
2006-06-27 14:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yesterday I had an appointment with a psychologist.
I talked for an hour all about my mum's death... my dad and I hate each other and haven't spoken in 4 years, but I never want to speak to him again, anyway... I was adopted out at birth because my natural mother already had 3 kids and couldn't afford another... she went on to have 3 more kids after me but kept all of them... I was brought up feeling unloved and useless, because my dad hated all women including mum and me... my husband was the eldest of 8 kids, and they were brought up with abuse and neglect... all I ever wanted in life was to be a mum, so it was a shock when the kids got older and pushed me away, because they felt stifled by me... my father in law raped and murdered 2 little girls...
All that and more! I didn't get to tell her I was sexually abused from the time I was 2 till when I was 7, and then I was gang raped when I was 16!
And NO I didn't cry.
I have cried so many tears over the years.
It felt like an accomplishment to be able to talk about things like that and not cry.
But if you don't talk these things through and don't allow yourself to cry I don't believe you can heal.
Yesterday I realised that I have finally healed. It felt great!!!
You will come to that stage too, but it won't happen overnight. All you can do is keep talking to anyone who will listen and it will become easier to finish the story.
I promise!!!
2006-06-28 03:39:55 · answer #2 · answered by sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am crying with you, gengen, and the crying is helping and healing you. Domestic violence is a terrible crime perpetrated on victims who did nothing but offer their love and devotion.
I offer my friendship to you, gengen. If you have your email communication on, you will soon see an invite to my 360. If not, feel free to contact me anytime.
2006-06-27 14:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by Flame 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cried today my past and present domestic violence is taking its toll on me too. Hope you feel better.
2006-06-27 14:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
crying is a very important step in the healing process
if you didn't finish the story that's okay, the listener probably understands
2006-06-27 14:28:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need more time to heal. crying is a really good start though. after my mom died, it took me 12 years to really cry and let it out.
2006-06-27 14:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cried yesterday.I'm so sorry to know about your case.Please think that ure better off then not to be in an abusive r/ship. Pls take care.
2006-06-27 14:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anisha81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I cried when I chopped an onion today. Does that count?
2006-06-27 14:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah my boss cried like crazy at work
work issues
i might cry later tonight depending on my hormones
2006-06-27 14:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by dvlndskyz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cried alot today becoause of some family probs
2006-06-27 14:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by angel.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋