i swear fr the past 3 weeks it has been hell in this house! my byfriends does nthing but lay in bed till about 4 pm and then gets up,makes his cmments to everyone and eats and then goes back to bed. he cnstantly puts me and my 2 children that arent his down and says that my third child that is his, that i am a bad mother. he tld his cousin without asking me that he wld go stay out at her use fr 5 days and nw i am stuck with no car, no way to get my children t their lessons or appts and this jerk doesnt care. we dnt have sex, sleep in the same bed, he calls me names,makes fun of me for having bipolar,and puts his hands on me...whats do i do?
2006-06-27 14:20:57 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Leave him...I mean what else can ya do...he is never gonna change...and if you think he is gonna become abusive then Get a restraining order on him....other then that I don't know what to tell ya..he sounds like a complete loser...but its your fault for dating him this long...but if you wanna keep working on things like most girls in bad relationships do....remember this little quote...Put up ....or shut up...
2006-06-27 14:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
I think you know the answer here... he didn't care that you didn't have a car and you have kids??? Come on! If you need to hear it on here, ok... KICK HIM OUT OF YOUR LIVES! You deserve better and even if you don't think you can do better, you at least deserve to give your kids a better living environment. NO MATTER WHAT. If you are afraid of him, then create a situation that can't back fire on you... bring family and/or friends to your home, explain what you are doing, what needs done and then do it. Ask him to leave and pack his stuff in no uncertain terms. You are risking your saftey and your children's by letting him stay... emotional abuse is just as bad if not worse than the physical. Get away from him!!!
2006-06-27 21:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he seems to be an ***. if you're a good mother, then your children should know that. no amount of bad mouthing should change the way you care of your children, and they'll see that. if he puts his hands on you, try for a restraining order before it gets out of hand. if you don't want to do that, i guess try couple counseling. don't know if that would work. but do something! this is not acceptable behavior. you should know that.
2006-06-27 21:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by jolene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and have a serious talk with him. If he gets upset and thinks you're the problem then I think you know the answer to this one. Your doing the giving and he's doing the taking. I hope things workout for you. Good Luck
2006-06-27 21:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by dethiegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry i dont know much about serious relationships involving children, but if he is abusing you get out. no one deserves to be treated like crap, and physical or even verbal abuse is never right. you r a strong wormen, u can handle the kids on your own. it will make your life easier with out him in it. think of why u r still with him - besides having a child with him
2006-06-27 21:24:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET RID OF THIS LAZY ABUSIVE JERK---IT'S SIMPLE --PUT A RESTRAINING ORDER ON HIM (his kind usually go zipzap when asked to disappear) AND PROCEED TO SUE HIS BUTT FOR THE CHILD'S SUPPORT THAT IS HIS--HE MAY NOT WORK AND HE MAY NOT PAY BUT AT LEAST HE WILL ALWAYS HAVE THAT FOLLOWING HIM AROUND AS A CONSTANT REMINDER OF JUST HOW WORTHLESS HE IS
2006-06-27 21:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow so sorry you and your kids are living like that but its real simple get rid of the bum before you or your kids get hurt if you think he'll get mean take out a restraining order on him peace
2006-06-27 21:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by MALIK D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has serious problems and it will get worse. he will begin to beat you and then probably the kids. you do not have to put up with that kind of mental abuse now, and physical abuse later, unless you left out the part about him beating you.
2006-06-27 21:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by native 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on the next thing moving and go away far away
2006-06-27 23:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by Youngboston 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only read the first sentence and the first thought that came to my mind was... BREAK UP WITH THE SELFISH JERK!!!
2006-06-27 21:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by Pug_Luver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋