i am a 13 year old girl and i have a 16 year old boyfriend who got me pregnant what should i do?

Answer 1

One, confirm the pregnancy... go to planned parenthood or take a test at home, if you want to tell your parents right now have your mom take you to the doctor. Two: sit down with some one you really trust.. who is older than you and have a real long conversation about your options. You can have an abortion, put the baby up for adoption, or choose to have the baby. All of these options have pros and cons. It helps to list what you like and don't like about each option. Example: you might have religious views about abortion that put it out of the question, or you may like the idea of getting out of the situation and not having a child, but are not sure what the whole abortion process is about or how you feel about the issue. Talk it out... and try to find someone who is not for one side or the other. You need to make this decision based on what you are okay with. 3rd.... get the guy involved. He is much older than you are and he should have known what sex could do to you. He is just as responsible as you are and should have a part in the decision making process. He does not get out of this without some of the huge weight you have on your shoulders. Finally. no matter what you decide to do, the best thing is to tell your parents. You are very young, abortions cost money and your parents need to know to take you to a doctor to get good care for you and the baby while you are pregnant, even if you are giving the baby up for adoption. This is not something you should hide. Telling them might be the hardest part, but in the end, they will be the most help to you. Best of luck to you... you can get through this, as hard as it seems. Just remember, babys cost alot of money and are a huge responsiblity, they are not cute and cuddly all the time. They scream and cry and poop and throw up. Don't make your decision based on what you think raising a child will be like... make your decision based on what is best for the child you are having.

Answer 2

Look, i understan where u are coming from. When i was 13 i was haveing sex too. If your mom or dad is anything like my mom... i wouldn't go to them first. You should give a call to the nearest planned parenthood to you and ask for information. You can go there and talk to them for advise. Then u will have to tell your parents/gardian. Planned Parent hood is confidential and won't tell your parents/ gardian when u call for info. If you don't have a problem with abortion then you could take an abortion pill. If you do have a problem with abortion then you could either keep it or give it up for adoption. I wish you good luck. Maybe u should have used protection but i know how sex just happins sometimes. Trust me on this... i've had some pregnant scares myself. (when u have simptoms of being pregnant but arn't.) Email me if you have any question. Good luck! And don't let anyone tell yo that u are a wh*re or a dumb teen.

Answer 3

At 13 & 16, i would suggest you both talk to your parents, this is not something that you can take care of by yourselves as you are barely grown. It is not just your responsibility it is also your boyfriend's.

Do not attempt to deal with this secretly without guidance and counselling. Its important that you get proper help because any decisions you and your boyfriend make you both will have to live with for the rest of your lives.

Another alternative is to....
If you have a family planning clinic in your area i suggest you and your boyfriend visit there and see a counsellor immediately, as time is of the essence.

I do not know what your home situation is like but i suggest you go to both your parents and work it out. They may not be estatic about the news, and they may ***** and mourn and quarrel but hopeful they are the type of parents that when all is said and done will help you through it and come to a decision that both of you can live with.

Answer 4

First, you should inform your parents or guardians of your pregnancy. Also, tell the father of the child that you are pregnant. Decide what it is that you want to do, whether it is to keep the child, adoption, or abortion. Pay a visit to the doctor with your parents and discuss matters with them. If you choose to keep the child, you need to start eating healthy. Ask your parents to set up appointments for prenatal care. The first 3 months of pregnancy are the most critical for the child. Those are the developing months. More than likely, your child's outcome will depend on how well the child was developed during the first trimester (first 3 months). All I can say is good luck and I hope things work out for the better! If you would like to read about pregnancy, visit http://www.webmd.com/pregnancy_and_family/default.htm

Answer 5

The first thing you should do is tell your mother or father. The second is to cut off your sexual relationship with this 16 year old.

If your family is understanding and wants to help you with your child, I would allow them to adopt the child. This way you will still be able to grow up, go to school, and have a childhood, but not be separated from your child.

If you don't have a good support system within your own family, think about adoption.

What I would stress to you is the fact that you will not, at 13, be able to give this child what he/she needs. Your 16 year old boyfriend may seem grown up and mature, but he will not be able to give this child what it needs either.

The most important thing is that this child grow up in a loving and stable environment, weather it be with you or someone else. Search adoption agencies in your area to find out how they can help you and what options you have.

Answer 6

Well, I'm 30 wks pregnant which is almost 8 months, and I was 15 when I got pregnant, and my fiancee` is 23. I wouldnt advise keeping it from your parents for too long because you NEED them for the doctor appts since you arent carrying health insurance on yourself. You need them for alot of things before you have the baby, so just tell them or tell his parents and maybe they could help you tell yours. And DO NOT have an abortion, the death rates are high for young girls after abortions and abortions are stupid anyway, you might be 13, but if youre old enough to have sex, youre old enough to pay the price, so keep the kid, and either put it for adoption, or actually keep it. Good Luck and Congrats...I think

Answer 7

Tell your parents and maybe you should consider adoption. Many couples can't have a baby and would love, adore and take great care of your baby. Be understanding with your parents, they'll be shocked, hurt and angry to say the least.
Best wishes and good luck. I'm 13 and can't imagine becoming a mum right now.
You could call the baby Mathew,Kirby, Matilda, Catherine or Jessica. Consult a doctor as well. I think abortion is a bad idea as it will traumatise u 4 the rest of your life.

Answer 8

Well, you already realize you made an oops. You don't say what your boyfriend has said or your parents. You need to tell them both. If he doesn't step up to help out, your parents will help you get child support - that begins before the baby is born. You and your parents will figure out what is best for you and the baby. 13 is a hard time to be pregnant, so you need to get a doctor's take on it, too.

Answer 9

Hold on!! are you absolutely positive that u are pregnant?
okay, the next step is to tell your parents. believe me, they will be angry at first, but they WILL HELP YOU THROUGH THIS!!!
next, tell him and his parents. hey, i think he's going to be grounded for life, don't u? :I
DON'T GO TO PLANNED PARENTHOOD!!!!!!! NO NO NO NO!!!!!!! B A D !!!!!!!
please, please, please don't abort. there are so many answers on here that say either ABORT or say DON'T ABORT, but harshly. Think about the baby for a minute...I'm telling u this because i wouldn't be here if my mom had that choice. She was pregnant with me when she was 15. I feel SOOO lucky every day just to be alive, and i know urs will too!!! and don't listen to any crap about how pregnancy is bad for ur health...if that's so, then humans wouldn't exist. and remember, way back when but not so long ago, girls your age were starting families. Not saying u should run out and marry this obviously incompitent 16 year old, but with good help from your parents i'm sure u can do this!!

Answer 10

Get some common sense. Are you sure that you are pregnant? Tell him that he needs to stick around for the baby. It's his responsibility also. Just becuase he don't give birth to the child, don't mean that he can just dump you or take an easy way out. Likely your child will be under custody of a family member. Good Luck.