One of my "friends" or so he calls himself is always a jerk and I don't know what to do. He always laughs and makes the biggest thing out of me messing up, it doesn't matter if it's a video game or if it's me screwin up in school. I don't know what I have done to make him do things like that because I'm always nice but I am SO close to beating the crud out of him. I'll let him borrow almost anything I own, I'll give him half my lunch if he forgot money to get food, I'll let him borrow money even if he won't pay me back. And how does he pay me back he tells me girls out way outta my league (one of them that he said was outta my league later became my girlfriend), he embarrasses my in front of groups of people and when we goof around with any kind of game he focuses on getting me out first so he can laugh at me. I don't know what to do? My other freind...let's say Bob, he's a waay better freind and my 1st friend does the same the same thing to him too. What should I do about my "freind"?
2006-06-27 13:16:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think the answer is clear to all of us, and on some-level (if you are honest with yourself) to you. This friend needs to be dropped.
Ask yourself what are you getting out of this friendship? The costs seem to be wayyy outweighing the benefits.
2006-06-27 13:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get AWAY FROM HIM!!! OMG! This guy is a real jerk...he is using you as someone he can breakdown to make himself feel better. You deserve so much better then that. Trust me...I have been stuck in a freindship like that and once i got out of it, life changed dramatically from painful to wonderful. now Ihave excellent freinds and I am so confident. He isn't worth it. Just tell him that you can't stand the way he treats you and walk away and never talk to him again. Just don't retailate by doing the same thing to him. That would be wrong. I sound like my mother....but seriously, it'll work and you deserve the best life you can get, friends and all! Hope it get's better for you.
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2006-06-27 20:24:10 · answer #2 · answered by Katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people like this are hard to get away from, because ur so used to being their friend. I have a friend just like this, and i just cant stop talking to her. dont be like me lol! friends always want the best for one another and being mean is not something friends do. I think u should stop lending him money and all that stuff cause it sounds like hes just using u. if he asks u for money, just say u dont have ne. for now, little by little start getting some distance from this person, and ull soon be rid of this FOE!
2006-06-27 20:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by rjekqlw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not your friend. He uses you to make himself look and feel better (to himself and others). You did not say one good thing about him or give one reason why you would actually call him a friend. Part ways...but be careful. He sounds like the kind of person that will do everything in his power to destroy you and your rep if you "break up" with him. Good luck.
2006-06-27 20:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by Mom of 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can chose who are ur friends. No one decides that. People can say things but you have to decide if you'll listen. If you feel left out or get embarassed my ur so called friend then mabey u should look for another. Dont ignore him or say asta la vista just hangout with other people. You can have more than one friend. I mean if you feel insecure than what kind of friend is he? Friends r there 4 you they don't put you down.
2006-06-27 20:34:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you are right suppose to be friend.. a friend does not treat you like that.. i actually had a so called friend like you are talking about and she seemed to always be putting me down.. she did not like my hair style, she thinks i should cut it instead of leaving it long.. she did not like the way i decorate my house.. and on and on... so finally i just had enough.. i use to have a eating disorder and now i have put on some weight too.. and this women is 3 times larger than i ever thought about being.. but you know this can lower your self -esteem people doing us like this... and it is time to put your foot down.. i actually feel so much better not going around this women anymore... she can not tell me what to buy when we are at a sale or anything because i am not around her.. i can do as i please and decorate the way i please.. and i do not care one bit what she thinks now.. and you should be the same way.. he is not your friend.. and i would like to tell him that myself... i would like to tell him to keep his opinions to hisself.. and you know you might not of messed up so much if he was not doing you like he was doing you.. you get nervous or upset and you could mess up any game or whatever .. and embarrassing you in front of your friends...really you do not need him not one bit.. he is more harm to you than you probably realize....i do hope you take my advice and tell him you do not want any more to do with him.. and if you have to be around him for some reason or the other completely ignore him....sorry if any of the words are misspelled cause the spellchecker is not working
2006-06-27 20:31:29 · answer #6 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get together with your other friend and contront him about it. Let him know he's being a jerk and if he's not going to cut the **** then cut your losses and don't hang out with him anymore.
2006-06-27 20:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by Keenan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an alpha male competitor.....Be a leader or a follower. Forget the friend.....Find one you can relate to more on your level........
2006-06-27 20:30:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a jealous FOE. He needs to make other people feel like crap so he can feel good!!!!
2006-06-27 20:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a foe, bad friend...looks like he is using you (i'm sorry truth hurts)...stay away from him
2006-06-27 20:20:27 · answer #10 · answered by JOLIE69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋