Psycologically speaking what can happen to a person who grew up relatively alon, and this developed into a philosopher thinking like type person, to find himself one day from Mon to Fri in a crowded life style and Fri to Sun with a girl too demanding to be considered healthy psycologically, and an all to extroverted child. OK my question is this case pushed to an extreme, Psycologically what can happen to the guy?
2006-06-27 13:14:08 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You get stressed out and cranky, with all the negative consequences that come from that.
It sounds like you were excessively introverted as a kid, eventually got sick of it, and made some life choices that put you around people. Now the pendulum has swung too far the other way and you're in need of some downtime.
So negotiate with the people around you to get some alone time. Let them know that you're still going to be there for them (because you probably don't want to abandon everything and everyone and return all the way to the loneliness of your youth), but that you're an introvert and you need some time away from people occasionally to recharge.
And when it's necessary to be around people, try to be creative and think of ways to make the experience more positive for you too.
For example, taking your wife to the gym and excercising with her (side-by-side treadmills) is a way to spend some quality time together, blow off stress, and get physically fit. The time will seem constructive because you're getting something out of it too.
Or take ballroom dance lessons together. It's extremely social (people, music), provides quality time for the wife, but doesn't actually involve much talking. Also, you can use the excuse of practicing your steps to disappear into the basement after dinner. Your wife will never fault you for wanting to be a better dancer. (The man's part *does* require more practice because of the need to lead.)
And so on.
In other words, try not to withdraw from people and simply disappear. It makes people needy, and frankly your childhood days of sitting around by yourself and philosophizing in your head are over. Accept that you're going to have people around you, and get involved and steer the enviroment in such a way that you get some enjoyment out of events too. A sense of control over your life will help out a lot. Good luck!
2006-06-27 14:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by Jim R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax and Meditate for about 20 minutes daily between 4.30 am and 6 am. You will become alright.
2006-06-27 20:25:45 · answer #2 · answered by gopala g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋