What do you do if you still have feelings for someone after 15 yrs.?

Answer 1

If you can't get together, know that you'll never forget them, but you must go on.

People lose their husband or loved one through death or divorce, but there will be another if you just accept that, after the pain of separation, there may be a scar, but you can still have a good life, and love again. Never in the same way, because it will always be different, but you can still love fully and be happy.

Answer 2

Get over it, if you have feelings for a person after 15 years forget it. Move on. Find someone else.
Now IF, after 15 years you have a deep affection and personal attachment (some call it love) even without multi-orgasmic sex, then you are either married or just don't get it.
It is important to ascertain if the feelings are reciprocal. If so then have a serious discussion about the next move.
Come back and submit more questions to Answers when you know if the other person feels the same way.

Answer 3

I don't really understand your question. Are they married to someone else now? Are you just friends with this person and they don't know you love them? Have you not seen this person for 15yrs and are obsessing about what you used to have?
If you haven't seen them in a long time then find them and meet with them. Sometimes you can be in love with the idea of love, not the actual person. There was a show in the UK about this very topic. If someone wrote in and said they were still in love with their 'first love' but hadn't seen them in 15yrs the show would locate the 'first love' and bring the couple together again. A few did reconnect, but most were horrified that someone had carried a torch for them for so long when they themselves had forgotten about that person long ago.
If you are still in this person's life as 'just friends' and they are not committed to anyone else, then tell them how you feel and see if they feel the same.
If they are already married or committed to someone else then simply move on hon..not worth trying to destroy another relationship to satisfy your whims.
It sounds like you are in a funk and are living on memories rather than creating some new ones with new ppl. You never know what is out there until you go and look.

Answer 4

I would move on and just keep your fond memories of him as memories. If it didn't work back then, chances are..it didn't work for a reason. I still had feelings for a man after 12 years. We had kept in touch occassionally through letters/emails/occassional phone calls. One day I thought I might love him and I moved back to where he lives to track him down. We ended up in a romantic relationship but it ended tragically. We had a passionate relationship initially but we soon discovered that we were incompatible and now we aren't friends anymore and won't be ever again. If I could turn back the clock, I'd do anything for those platonic letters/emails and occassional phones calls....just to know he is OK. *sigh*.....signed...heartbroken 4ever )o:

Answer 5

As An Expert... I Would recommend you to grab a 45 and let the trigger go on your head cuz you spend 15 years and couldn't do nothing about them feelings..

Answer 6

Be thankful, especially if your married to them. If its an old love who has moved on, replace thoughts of them instantly with another thought, it will take time, but you can get over them.

Answer 7

should be happy cause u could experience a real love, not many of us felt something real and deep that could last for 15 years

Answer 8

Wow. You've been carrying that torch for a long time, Amy. It never really goes away.

Answer 9

Talk about it with that someone, see what comes up.
If its love then see to it if its possible or not.
Being a friend is much relexing.

Answer 10

Its of course love