I have four children from 2-8 and they take up a lot of my time I don't have time to get dressed up like I used to and I'm very tired when I go to bed and Usually my twins try to sleep with us. I just want to make my husband feel like I have time to make him feel loved and appreciated too.
2006-06-27 13:11:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to make time for your husband. Just like you did before the children can along. You can send him little love notes; put a note in his pocket or where he can easily see it. Whisper in his ear something sweet, while he is watching TV. Make a date with your husband, if you can't get a baby sitter. Put the children to bed early, and have your date in the back yard, on the patio, on the front porch, any where around the house. Give him that special look, and say the words I Love You, blow him a kiss. Listen to his every word. Make him feel special at all times, in between taking care of the children. Take a late or early morning shower together, before the children wake up.
2006-06-27 13:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by Cinnamin M 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
First of all, BLESS YOU for thinking of him with all you have to do. We have three kids from 9 to 18; I feel complete sympathy for you with that two-year-old, been there ourselves...
So sit back from the computer, give yourself a hug, and take a feel-good-about-yourself break. You're a peach.
The VERY best solution would be to have the kids stay with Grandma overnight while you and your husband have a full-tilt night on the town with dinner and a hotel or bed-and-breakfast. My wife and I have done this for a couple of anniversaries; if you can squeeze it out of the budget, buy Grandma a plane ticket to come watch the kids if you have to. She'll love it, it'll be great for the kids, and you and your husband can reconnect while knowing that the kids are being watched by somebody who really cares. (It's just not relaxing or romantic to spend the whole evening wondering if the sitter is giving your kids the right kind of attention.)
If that's not practical, see if somebody you trust can watch your kids for at least long enough that you and your husband can have some grown-up togetherness time. Could be dinner and a movie, could be a picnic in the backyard, could be just a bottle of wine in front of the fireplace.
As a guy myself, though, be sure that for at least part of the time, you two are alone and in private. There are certain shows of appreciation that really require a "Do Not Disturb" sign...
All the best!
2006-06-27 13:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by Scott F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a date. Lovin is great when it's spontaneous. But when the kids are little, it's not always easy to find the time, or the energy. Plan a date. A rendezvous if you will. Get a sitter,even if it's only for a couple hours. Let him know ahead of time just exactly what's going to be on your mind. The anticipation will be exciting for both of you. And he'll certainly know how much you love and appreciate him.
2006-06-27 13:19:58 · answer #3 · answered by Curly Joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try putting a card in his brief case or his car telling him how much you love him and what he means to you. And after the kids go to sleep make sure you have a nice conversation even if its just 5 minutes ask him about his day at work etc. Let him know you'll always make time for him.
2006-06-27 13:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by honey27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the times that you DO have, very special. It's not quantity anyway, it's quality! Tell him often, and praise him....he knows the "load " you're carrying...he's right there beside you, pulling too.
2006-06-27 13:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he can take some of the load off your hands! he needs to help out with the kids or help you out in any way to get more attention from you! its a fair deal if you ask me...
i'm not sure of your whole situation but, i know that there is something he could do to help out that would be a big help to you... more free time for you can = fun time for him :)
2006-06-27 13:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just say it to him you have no idea how many ways trying to show someone can **** up ...say it, write it on a sign and stick it on the wall .....men aren't complicated but with all those kids i doubt you even get to talk properly at the moment ...just say it to him he will appreciate it truly
father of 5
2006-06-27 15:49:32 · answer #7 · answered by Bearable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are a number of ways
be kind
be caring
smile
and just tell him once in a while, "I really appreciate what you do for me and the kids"
2006-06-27 13:55:48 · answer #8 · answered by paulie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the dating answer...
The little things always count - coffee in the morning, lunch made, post it notes with cute little saying in his calendar (or other work items) - little things nothing big and fancy.
2006-06-27 13:23:46 · answer #9 · answered by Nic. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are so sweet to think of him in that way, i bet he knows ur time is limited, and he knows he is
2006-06-27 14:05:42 · answer #10 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋