thats all he ever talks about, is making a family. i'm only 17 and not ready for that! how do i tell him nicley without hurting his feelings??? HELP!!!!
i'm desperite!!!
2006-06-27 12:58:30 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
ps- this guy is 18
2006-06-27 13:22:30 · update #1
Just be honest with him. You have so many things yet to experience and if you're not ready for a family you'll resent him for it.
2006-06-27 13:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by nina_0923 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you love him (granted you do) and you've made up your mind to wait a while. Creating a family isn't easy and if he loves you enough to want a family with you, that's great... but you guys don't have to rush it.
First and foremost, you should be married if this is what you both want eventually, but I would not let someone else tell you to do it when you're clearly not prepared. Tell him you will still be there and you guys need to get out and have fun together for a while before commiting to such a dramatic change of life. And if you're not already, you should live together a while to see if you could even tolerate eachother under those circumstances before bringing children into the middle of it.
Also, I'm hoping he's not the type of guy who wants you to start making this family just so he can keep you at home and prevent you from being seen by the world. You're so young, enjoy life right now! I'm glad to see you have stood up for yourself this long. Now just make a lasting impression and stress the reply of "no" but validate it. make sure he knows where you are coming from.
2006-06-27 14:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by ladonnaschild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! No! No! Then cross your legs and tell him NO again and if he doesn't get it tell him to HIT THE ROAD JACK AND DON'T come back no more cause i got a lot of livin' TO DO !!!! And then point at the door and say GIT!! if you can't deal with this. Don't worry about being nice as he is getting on you're nerves and you want to do some things with your life and that don't include no babies at 17, child. May GOD bless you for having the wisdom to see what could lie ahead
2006-06-27 13:18:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably start by figuring out what you really want. If you eventually want to have a family with that guy, then tell him that, but make it clear that you aren't ready to do it now... If you don't see yourself having a family with him, then tell him that.
Whatever you decide, I recommend you be brutally honest about it.
...It may hurt his feelings now, but in the long run, it's the nicest thing you can do for him, and yourself.
2006-06-27 13:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by Joka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him exactly what you feel about it! that 17 and 18 years old are too young to plan about family! tell him how much you love him but both of you dont have to rush! tell him that u will always be with him and so is he!
theres no way he wont understand ur feelings!
2006-06-27 16:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by nahleens 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him straight up that yes you love him and yes you want to have a family with him ( that is if you do) but your not ready for all that right now...that you want to be your age...if he really loves you and he really wants to get married and have a family than he can wait a year or two
2006-06-27 13:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by beaiipurple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he still continues leave him speaking from experience it just going to get really uncomfortable and weird to the point that its no longer a relationship but a harassment you HAVE to talk to him asap
2006-06-27 13:03:25 · answer #7 · answered by Thom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him straight out, you feel uncomfortable talking about that kind of thing. I know you don't want to hurt his feelings, but if you're not telling him because you're afraid he'll be angry, maybe you shouldn't be with him... I'm sure if you just tell him it's uncomfortable for you to talk about, and that you arn't ready for that, I know he'll understand if he loves you ^_^
2006-06-27 13:03:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him YES,you are ready! But under one condition. Then ask him "would you carry the baby for 9 months?" lets see if he's ready now hhmmm ?! hehe..
2006-06-27 13:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, just sit him down and explain to him. If he do not understand that the guy for you. A real gentlemen well understand. Goodluck
2006-06-27 13:12:26 · answer #10 · answered by JO`NAE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋