I am a gay guy and my good friend "Rachelle" whom I've known for over 15 years is engaged to a fine young man I must say. They recently had their first child and bought a new home together. "Rachelle" could not be happier.
But on one of those lonely nights when I decided to rent a few good adult flicks and relax at home I discovered that "Rachelle's" handsome fiancee was in the porn flick perfroming some nasty sex acts with other men. That shocked me! I was laughing, but at the same time I felt horrible for my friend. If I mentioned this to her she would be horrified.
Should I tell my friend "Racelle" or just act as if I never saw it?
2006-06-27 12:54:28 · 19 answers · asked by AnthonyPaul 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
***ATTN: OUTSOKENONE - I appreciate your reponse but when did this question turn into an disease/STD related question...only because I mentioned the word gay? You think only gay people have diseases? You need some education girl.***
2006-06-27 13:35:40 · update #1
I would suggest talking to him and see what he has to say, I would also tell him that if he doesn't tell her that you will have to.
This will leave the door open for him to do the right thing, but will also save your friends fellings a little, it will be better comming from him.
good luck.
2006-06-30 20:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by ak23boi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may already know about this and just did not mention it to you. But I do believe that you should find a way to tell her gently, in case she doesn't know it.
She has a child to think of now, not just herself. And she has the right to know exactly who she is married to. So that she can make an informed decision about the rest of her life. His past may give her some insights into their future together.
It's sounds as if your friend is an open minded person and she will probably handle this just fine. If it were my husband, I would want to know!
2006-06-27 20:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming they have a kid together, there is a chance the she already knows, as long as they had that what have you done in the past talk like most couples of any relationship, maybe when you are alone with him ask him if he was in a porno and see what his reaction is, or say the name of it to him if he is like no way, and then if he denies it ask him if his wife knows about it, or make a copy of it and give it to her as a gift or to him. hehe. (whats the name of this porn?) just make sure if you do bring this up to your friend that it is not going to be something that causes trouble in her relationship with her man, you do not want that, if you are close to her, and want to picture him in that movie when you see him in person. hehe
2006-06-27 20:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of straight guys do gay porn for money. You may ask why? Well why do people sell blood or plasma? For money! It doesn't mean he is gay or liked it, he was probably offered money, and took it. Even porn actors are actors.
To answer your question, just keep it to yourself. If you are going to tell anyone, tell him.
2006-06-28 22:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by FORNIDO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First: A lot of guys who do porn are gay for pay. They do it for the quick fast money.
Second: She ma already know and it was a private discussion of theirs and need not involve anyone else.
Third: If you say something it may ruin your friendship with her to...most bearers of news are considered the destroyer not the savior...so beware and best bet, mind your biz and leave their relationship to them.
2006-06-27 20:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by Wheels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep it to yourself. There is alot of str8 guys who do gay porn rather than str8 porn because the money in gay porn is so much higher per movie. So he might be str8 but just in it for the great pay.
2006-06-28 03:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by native_guy_2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you can get her to watch the flick and find out for herself. This way you had nothing to do with it. If my best freind knew something like that and didn't tell me I would be upset.
2006-06-27 23:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by mary07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether she knows or not i just hope he didnt pass any stds or aids to his unborn child ..those things can be passed from the father to the mother sexually and since those things can be in the mothers vagina when the child is born it can be passed onto the child as it passes through the vaginal canal....unless she had a c-section ..if she did..thats good...
every std does not show its symptoms right off ...it can be in the body for a long time without showing signs....i just hope that baby is ok...
2006-06-27 20:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by outspokenone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would be best you for to keep it to yourself, just because he is in a gay porn film does not mean he is gay.
2006-06-28 10:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by cantfoolthewise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of you have to find out if it's in the past...cause it's non of your business to tell her....He has the right to keep his past private......
2006-06-27 22:32:47 · answer #10 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋