i have alot of things that i haven't told my parents about my self. two major things are that i'm bisexual and that i'm an agnostic. they are highly against homosexuality etc. and are really big christians. i feel like i'm living a lie when i come to them acting like i agree with their views. i just want to know how to deal with it.
i am sure that they know that i don't have a problem with homosexuality etc. but as far as the christian thing goes they have no clue.
2006-06-27 12:52:50 · 13 answers · asked by cantchuzealblcuzucallmiapoza 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sweetheart, the truth is that no matter how you handle the situation, it will be a little hard for your parents to take. Be honest with them in a proper setting. Sit them down privately and explain your truth to them. But make sure that you have all of your facts straight first because they will have many questions that you will have to answer as sensitively as possible. Also, explain clearly why you don't believe in the Christian way of thinking. They will be hurt, but they are still your parents and will love you no matter what (hopefully). Furthermore, only bring up that you are agnostic if and only if you are absolutely sure that is your true way of thinking.
2006-06-27 14:30:35 · answer #1 · answered by Nlove0519 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dads side of the family is loving and except you no matter what, well i some of my family and my dads side and it is ok but they are not devoted christians either. My moms side on the other hand sounds just like you parents, they goto church for sure once a week and some times more. They also say nightly prayers and are totally against homosexuality. I always told my self if i meet some one and fall in love I will come out at a holiday and bring them home to meet the family the whole family, but I would make sure to have a EMT on site just in case lol. I would do what you think would make you happy, and if your going to tell them I would suggest having a few drinks, it makes it go so much better (I know lol).
2006-06-28 03:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by native_guy_2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With only the information you've provided, as much as I hate to say it, it sounds like you should probably wait awhile to talk to them. Financial independance is a good mark of when it's ok. You need to think of the worst case scenario, and think of what resources you have in place to counter it. Again, because I don't know more, I think I would spread that to both orienation and the religion. Like...my parents are Catholic, so it wasn't a huge deal when I didn't want to get confirmed, but I have a friend who's Jehovah's Witness to stands to get excommunicated (meaning her family shouldn't talk to her). Just for not being the same religion. If it's something like that, again, definitely wait. If it's not that hardcore, you might start with the religion bit; expect to be asked why, and what parts specifically you don't believe. And why not.
2006-06-28 02:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, You live your life how you want.
Secondly, It's not their choice how you live, what you believe, who you sleep with, and honestly it is not their business.
Third, when you feel the right time is upon you will tell them or ease the subjects upon them, don't stand up at the dinner table and say mom day sis, i am bi oh and another thing... you might give your mom a heart attack! Your dad will tell you he doesn't agree with your choices or lifestyles but hey are they his to make or live? Maybe you should talk to your mother first see how she takes it, and reassure her that she cannot send you to therapy to fix your beliefs.
2006-06-27 21:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and tell them! They are your parents, I think they can understand.
I will never tell mine I am bisexual (unless if I decide to marry a woman) , but living in a lie with them doesn't bother me as much as bothers you. But they know I am a Buddhist (they are Christians) and don't mind.
2006-06-28 07:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by Sabina_Rois 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your research on these topics so you can answer/counter all their questions/arguments. Start choosing books or other references that you think might help your folks understand where you're coming from when you do tell them (like "Someone I Love Is Gay," for example). Get financially and emotionally independent.
2006-06-28 05:13:06 · answer #6 · answered by lucy_ritter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you'll have to be true to yourself and tell them, regardless of the fallout. If they love you, they should think of you rather than their own feelings, and try to understand and accept you as you are. It's that or spend the rest of your life trying to hide the way you really are, and that sounds like a miserable existence to me.
Good luck...
2006-06-27 19:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mom, dad i have good news and bad news bad news is that I'm bi and I'm agnostic BUT the good news is i just saved a bunch of money on my car insurance by switching to gicoe or something like that or do what i do when i get a bad grade cover it up with another good grade!
2006-06-27 19:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by hunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are that against it I would wait until I could afford my own place b4 I told them, that way when they kicked me out I would be ok.
2006-06-27 19:58:24 · answer #9 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of "agnostic" what is that supposed to be?....the closest thing i know to that is an "atheist"..
2006-06-27 20:24:16 · answer #10 · answered by outspokenone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋