It seems to me when ever i am at work about 90% of the people there (guys and gals) are having affairs. Is this normal or am I just in a bad working place. Does anybody think staying with one person is the right way any more? Even if you have chances or opportunties with someone that looks great! Or am i just too old fashion ?
2006-06-27 12:50:36 · 24 answers · asked by thunderstruck_twice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It only LOOKS like that many are having affairs, but they're not really.......although MANY ARE, yes! Now, what should you do? Remain faithful to your spouse,,and avoid the heartbreak and ruined lives that affairs cause every single day......busted up families, crushed dreams, and nervous breakdowns..... You can NEVER be too "old fashioned" if you ask me!
2006-06-27 12:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is the people you work with. Most of the people I work with aer happily married and talk about their spouses and family all of the time - being separated for a little over a year - it is actually a bit awkward for me, but I don't mind. I believe staying with the one RIGHT person is the right way. I just haven't found that right person...I spent 4+ years trying to pull my now 7 year marriage back togehter - but it takes 2 - but eventhough we had not had intercourse for those years, I never thought about having an affair...You are not old fashioned
2006-06-27 21:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by auntb629 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day in age, it seems that what is right and what is not, does not matter. Those of us who are married and do not believe in playing around are a dieing breed. But I can say that I am proud of my decision and beliefs. Those who do play the field, think that they will never be caught and it's alright because everyone else is doing it, but when they do get caught, they don't understand why or the hurt they caused. Not to even mention the diseases that are out there that can sit and wait and then pop up and say, hello, you're dead. There is nothing wrong with being old fashion, be proud of it and yourself.
2006-06-27 20:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by viper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just about everybody I know is cheating. You are not too old fashioned, I feel the same way. And seeing all this adultery makes it hard to trust the person you are with, doesn't it? I would never cheat on the guy I am with, I do think being with one person is the right way. These are sad times we live in.
2006-06-28 11:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My oppinion society and up bringing are to blame, not to many years ago people that got divorced were treated as if they had the plague or something, today 50% of marriages end up in divorce and its tossed around like no big deal. Most just dont respect the vows they take anymore. But there are still alot of us that believe in the union of marriage, so its not deminished yet. And like me, a child from divorced parents, all i ever wanted was the "complete" family, the happily ever after. So. dont give up hope and no your not old fashioned, your someone with morals.. big difference.
2006-06-27 21:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please Thunder, say it isn't so...I hope you are not too old fashioned. I don't know where you work, but I'd consider changing jobs. If that is not possible then I would be very careful. That type of environment is not good for a marriage. I hope you can find a way to rise above the office morals and be a role model for the people you work with. Best of Luck. Nana
2006-06-27 20:11:41 · answer #6 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it helps, I have been married for 21 years now and would not think of stepping out.
I took an oath (vow) to love, honor, and forsake all others....it is my belief that those are more than just words in the English language. Call me old-fashion or just a man of my word; either way, it is the right thing for me.
I have many friends, who believe totally different from me; they believe that a relationship is nothing more than just sex.....the idea of this is totally wrong to me.
Keep your faith in your relationship and keep your values the way they are.....let no one change your "old-fashion" ways.
2006-06-27 21:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not okay to have an affair. The workplace seems like a great place to get it on. Men who have affairs usually arn't getting their needs met by their women. Women tend to stop putting out as much once they are married. Women who cheat arn't satisfied with their sex life. Most women never orgasm. It isn't just the man's fault. She should be able to tell her man which place gets her off. Both men and women need to communicate with each other to truely have a good sex life. If they did most people wouldn't be seeking someone else to satisfy them.
2006-06-27 19:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by natasha s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your workplace sounds a little unusual. It doesn't seem normal to me. I plan on staying with my wife forever, and most of the people I work with seem to be doing the same thing. If you're married and truly in love then there are no such things as "chances or opportunities with someone that looks great". My opinion.
2006-06-27 19:54:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ...I agree with you.....Many jobs I have worked in I have seen this go on....I think when people work so closely together they let lust get in the way of there already existing relationships.....Its so sad that for some people one person just isn't enough.....I must be an old fashioned girl :o)
2006-06-27 19:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by 1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋