I have to balance work, housework, and watching our son so lately my energy level has gone kaput. Now im good if i can make it through to fix dinner when i get off work, and even more so if i can deal with being off and watching our son while i try to clean. My husband comes home from work and plays his xbox. So i have no help there and now hes b****ing at me because the housework is getting behind and we cant afford a housekeeper so the only answer i can think of is more energy. I go through TONS of energy drinks. Any ideas? Please I cant take any more of his criticism. And he wont help, he doesnt even pick up after himself, and he refuses to watch our son.
2006-06-27 12:39:57 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You married a loser, so sorry.
Start to plan now how you will be able to get out of this bad situation.
You deserve someone better and they are out there.
2006-06-27 12:44:15 · answer #1 · answered by parshooter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a case for "wife swap" the TV show. This is a mess you created, he didn't just get like this. Talk to him and let him know how you feel. He should either pitch in to help or he needs to stop nagging you about the impossible. You are only one person.
I have always made it know to any man that I've been with that housekeeping was not my thing, if they need a maid, I'm not the one.
My husband was a single man for a long time before we met, so cooking and cleaning were things he was capable of doing. We alternate. If I was dishes he puts them away or vice versa. We both wash clothes, make the bed, mop and sweep floors, We do yard work together.
Do you feel me? A marriage is a JOINT effort, you are supposed to be working as a TEAM!!!
2006-06-27 12:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Tough situation. I would say counselling would work wonders if you could get him to go, but I know my husband wouldn't. I take Vitamin B12 supplements. They have sublingual tablets that you put under your tongue and can take 2 a day. You won't notice an instant energy burst, but over the course of about a week, you should start to notice an improvement. You may also want to schedule a check up with your family doc to make sure there's nothing else wrong, such as low iron.
2006-06-27 12:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a young girl, but I have alot of knowledge. I don't know about the energy thing, but I have a few suggestions about the husband that should help you. If he is not a dangerous man you should stand up to him and tell him that he needs to help out ALOT around here and get a good paying job. And maybe he should learn to cook and help you out with dinner. Or take his xbox away and tell him to stop acting like a child, and then tell him my first suggestion. If he is a dangerous man, you should go to court and ask them to get divourous papers and hire someone to protect you. If he is just plain flat LAZY then my first choice would propably be best. Good Luck!
2006-06-27 12:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by Christine L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through that very same thing with my husband after having my second child. i busted my butt, cleaning working, caring for two small children, my husband works on the road doing construction. so finally i got fed up with his antics and just quit doing things for him, since he didn't do anything for me. i made dinner, but for the kids and i, i did laundry but only for the kids and i, i took out my own garbage, and i just pretty much lolly gaged around or went visiting a lot. he didn't say anything until he didn't have anymore clean underwear. and this was our conversation. honey, we are a family. we all live together, we all need to work together. no one person can care for everything, especiall if you are working...it is too much. maybe even make a chore list for the both of you, like he does garbage you vaccum, he cleans the toilet, you clean the tub, help him understand that it isn't something that you want, but something that you need. otherwise you will get so burnt out that you will finally lose your mind and your temper
2006-06-27 12:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by dj be 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey get a grip on life we all go through it try doing it with 7 or 8 kids and manging two business of your own my man don't do **** but work we have 3 kids of our own and have raised 5 others that are not ours we do what we can and make the best of it and trust me i am a neat freak and sense you have all this **** going on and feel like your going crazy and can't get anything done then try using the time it took you to write this message to getting some more done try putting yourself in a routine and your man is just a lazy *** like most men and didn't your momma ever teach you it is not a mans place to clean and do **** that's why men look for good women like me who can handle and juggle everything and still make time for there needs as well as your own
2006-06-27 12:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by prioritizing your life. Do the things that have to get done . Than try talking to your husband, it might work but most likely not. Get some sleep while the baby is asleep. you don't have to be super mom or super wife. Do what you need to do for you. Let (make) him watch the kid while you do something for yourself no matter how small. ( take a long bath, etc).
2006-06-27 12:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okkayy, if you read over what you just wrote, you going to see how stupid its sounds and how dum is your relationship. You need to step up and make him have some responsibility too. you need to face him. How can you go with drinking energy drinks all day, you are going to kill yourself. Break his xbox, and get your son and sit him on his lap. Either he helps you or you dont cook dinner. Lady you are in a nightmare and i feel sorry for you. I would tell you about my relationship but i really dont want to make you feel any worse than you already are.
2006-06-27 12:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by LostMind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a holiday. i went away for a week and left my husband with all the kids and responsibilities and when I got back he was different. He realized how much i really do. Get away for a while and see how things are when you get back. If they are the same move out you are doing far more than your body is capable of
2006-06-27 12:51:30 · answer #9 · answered by Wendy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl if you can't get it done don't push yourself and if he thinks it is so out of hand and out of control tell him to stop B*tching about it and get off his a** and help. My husband was the same til one day I did not clean or do anything but watch my son and told him, he needs to help out or the house will continue to look like this
2006-06-27 12:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by ~Ms Eli~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that he doesn't start helping, he can leave. If he loves you, that should be enough! He needs to appreciate the hard work that comes with being a mother! I am not a mother, but I know what my mother would do in that situation. Tell him that he better get his tail moving or she would be outta there!
2006-06-27 12:45:56 · answer #11 · answered by nagaem2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋