I'm 7 months pregnant with an 8 and 1/2 month old baby. My husband works 60 hours/week with a 3 hour drive (total) each day--unless he is working 300 miles away from home which has been happening at least once a week for the last 2 months. He has put 10k miles on our brand new car. I made a comment that I'll be glad when this stupid job is done and he doesn't have to drive to friggin Toledo every week and he got mad at me because I wasn't "proud" of how hard he was working. It's great that he's working "so hard" for his company, but it's extremely hard for me being 7 months pregnant with an 8 and 1/2 month old that wants to use me as her personal jungle gym. On top of it all, our other car just went belly up because of some shoddy work that was done on it last year. Am I insane?
Shall I add that he plans to fix the other car? I have to ask when? We're selling the house, the yard hasn't been mowed in a week and a half (which is a 3 hour job) and
2006-06-27 12:22:14 · 8 answers · asked by wowee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is it wrong to express my dislike of his 300 mile trek every week? we're currently arguing because he has to go back for the 2nd time this week on thurs.? Every time he gets home he tells me how he just stood around all day and waited for other people.
2006-06-27 12:32:39 · update #1
Thank you for all the great responses. They do help--I know its mostly hormones. He was venting about it being totally useless that he had to drive all the way up there to stand around. Hell, I thought I was being supportive by saying that I would be glad when he didn't have to go back. Maybe he's hormonal too--lol
2006-06-27 12:50:30 · update #2
Both, it is hormones, but no wife likes the 60 hour weeks. I have been there & done that. I was alone all the time & when he got home he was tired. I got a lawn person, shopped, spent time with family and complained about his long hours. The bonus that we bought our sailboat with almost made it worth it though.
Good luck & it is only 2 more months till baby. I hope the selling the house is to shorten the commute some.
2006-06-27 12:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...and no you are not the only one .Our hubby's work hard to provide for the family and yes we do suffer being left with the kids but at the end of the day we made that decision to be with someone that we love and that is life i`m afraid.However try to make time with your husband for you to both unwind.Its important that you communicate and i found the best time for me to talk with my hubby was when he had food in his tummy and taken a rest after work.sometimes i get a bath ready for him once the kids were in bed.He works long hours and yes you must appreciate this.If the grass hasn't been mowed .....so what it can wait !Its not the end of the world.
Being pregnant cant be easy and with a 8 1/2mth old .aswell.Gosh small gap !Make sure you are taking care of yourself sleep when baby sleeps this is very important.
Above all remember there are people out there who are worse off than you maybe they crave for a garden ,have not even one car,maybe they have no proper roof over their heads and no space for their children cause hubby has no job.Remember you are very lucky to have these things cause you have a hubby that works very hard to provide for his family And next time you have an argument over something remember these pointers.
Good luck with 2nd baby and DON`T WORRY TOOOO MUCH.lol
2006-06-27 12:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm totally with you!!!
But maybe he's stressing, too. It sounds like he has been working a lot. Still, it's extremely exhausting being pregnant AND having another baby on top of you all the time!
It sure sounds like you got a lot on your plate! Maybe approach your husband in a way that lets him know you are worried about things and need reassurance. Maybe he'll respond in a more sensitive way.
I wish you the very best!
2006-06-27 12:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by mamabunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA WHOA...sweetie..breath!!
first of all, you seriously need a chill pill. i know motherhood, esp. being pregnant with kids...its well...a b!thch!
your hubby is probably thinking this...he's bustin his *** workin a job WAY out of town and away from his wife and kid, he's doing it for YOU..do you think he would just for himself??
he wants you to validate that what he is doing is wonderful, that he is special to you, that he is a good husband and provider!!
i know you want the same thing, being exhausted when he gets home, and trapped without a car.
but i think you might be unloading on him a bit much. try writting down your fustrations...or hell take it out on a pillow or punching bag.
get a sitter for your "little gymnist" and have a CALM evening at home for just the two of you. take the time to tell him how much you love him, what he does for you, your daughter...you might find that he has some good things to say back. a lot of the time men just dont know what or how to say what they feel.
you have to work it out of them gently! no pressure, no ultimatumes.
you seriously need someone to watch your little girl for you at least twice a month so you and hubby can have some alone time, before that baby gets there! and when you are comfortable with someone watching the "new" baby...twice a month is a good idea then too.
i have 3 kids, my hubby is in the military and is gone often. when he gets home...we take time to tell each other how much we love each other, we snuggle, etc etc etc. and we MAKE the time to calmly talk about what's gone on in our day. WITHOUT pointing fingers or saying things like "you never, you always".
you have sooooo much on your plate right now, the most important thing you need right now...is time to relax! get that babysitter girl!!
2006-06-27 12:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wanted my HONEST answer , right? HORMONES! It's not easy on you, or your husband right now, but "this too, shall pass!" Love each other , and rejoice together over the baby....to heck with the yard......let the goats eat it, lol. This will all work out I promise you....only 2 months to go! Best of Luck to you, and yours!
2006-06-27 12:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, honey it sounds like your just going through the hormone thing, and maybe a bit frustrated.
you may need some r&r for your self, have a girls day out alone and treat yourself for the whole day, dinner, nails, hair, hot bathw/ bubbles!
2006-06-27 12:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to frost, she has the best answer and she knows cause shes in the same boat. chill out and relax. good luck.
p.s. some women have men that won't work at all!
2006-06-27 12:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by brokenheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like there is no time to do the things that need to be done, relax things will get better
2006-06-27 12:26:42 · answer #8 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋