Alright so i was in the car ridin home from work with my boyfriend...and his phone rings and the voice is a girl's ...he always gets calls to go out and stuff...[i don't mind that] but yeah...i went through a little bit of a mood swing...[just a tad jealous] i just get quiet that's all..and then he wants to know what's wrong....but i don't think i should tell him..."Oh i was just grumpy because i was jealous because you were talking to some girl who wants to meet up with you tonight"....
i guess it would be good to be honest...but i think it's really petty...and sometimes and don't know why i get mildly jealous...it just happens...i don't get upset or anything..i just get quiet and broody.lol
hopefully he will have forgotten about it by time he comes back...
he's been trying to get me to work on my communication...
2006-06-27 12:10:37 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no. he invites me to go out.. but i have a little bit of social anxiety about meeting new people...
he wants me to meet his family...but i am too scared...i HATE being judged you know..
2006-06-27 12:18:24 · update #1
the female who calls usually on the behalf of the "group" guys&girls attend...he's not hanging out with just girls.
i like that my boyfriend goes out...because we're mainly home freaks...we chill out ALL the time together! so i'm happy when i can get my space without having to ask for it lol!...but yeah...i just get tad jealous when it's a girl callin..
THanks everyone so much for all the advice!!! much appreciateD!
2006-06-27 12:24:51 · update #2
Come right out and tell him, but be considerate of his feelings when you do so. I can attest that very few things will irritate a guy more than when a woman is upset and refuses to say why.
There's nothing wrong with being jealous, as long as you don't let your jealousy control you. No guy appreciates being accused of cheating by his girlfriend when he is being faithful to her.
2006-06-27 12:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by P.I. Joe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the truth of the matter is that someone really should write a book of ettiquette on the use of cell phones - when it is and isn't appropriate to use one, etc. Personally, if I'm out on a date with someone I want their undivided attention just as I assume they want mine. Unless their is a pending death in the family or other "Real" crisis, calls from "others" can and should wait. Strike up a conversation with him at some time other than when he has just taken a call or when the two of you are around other friends. Don't direct the conversation toward how it makes you feel when he does it - just in general when anyone does it. If you notice, its not unusual to go places these days and find signs or hear people make announcements asking people to turn off their pagers or cell phones. I agree with you that it's aggravating. If I'm with someone special I want them to place everyone else on their no call or do not disturb list. Good Luck.
2006-06-27 19:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sonie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start talking or lose him. You also need to start dealing with some of your issues. How can you expect to have a long happy relationship with this guy if you refuse to meet his parents, or go out with him and his friends? And THEN get jealous when he goes out with them. Has he done anything to deserve you not trusting him? If not, then you need to grow up some. The things you are doing, and refusing to do, are all just little slices into your relationship....slice it enough and you're going to kill it.
No one likes being judged, but it's a fact of life. You will spend your whole life being judged by family, work associates, inlaws, friends, people you don't even know. Most of the time, they have better things on thier mind than judging you though. It seems a little paranoid and egotistical to think that they will spend all of their time and effort on judging you.
Be yourself, and open up to people, you might be surprised at how many will actually like you.
2006-06-27 19:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Sigh* I went through the same thing almost a year ago. My fiance at that time took on a new job that required him to be very busy. He didn't have time for me, he always took calls from work when with me. And picked up calls when I was in the middle of talking. It was distracting and after a while, I had shut down. I stopped talking to him and before I realized it, he had become a stranger. I had held all that anger and resentment inside for so long, it really hurt us. Took months to clean up. I'm just glad the wedding day wasn't ruined. I was happy and gleaming.
Anyways, you should be honest, especially if its a new issue. Just don't overdue it after you two have talked it through and resolved it. Guys hate it when girls bring up the past or repeat the same things over and over and over...which we all have the tendency to. Choose your fights wisely and be adult, no yelling, don't bring tears unless you can't help it.
Good Luck to ya!
2006-06-27 19:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by jade11378 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him. but dont tell him ''Oh i was just grumpy because i was jealous because you were talking to some girl who wants to meet up with you tonight". that might make him alittle sad that he is making you feel un happy. but it seems like somewhere you think that he might just go out with sum1 else. talk to him next time it happens. get him to say that he would never leave you or that he loves you. also, if you tell more people your going out, or just act more like a couple, people will get the message that hes taken and stop. also, is he telling all these girls that hes taken? or that he just cant. that might be the proboblem. if hes not telling them hes taken they'll keep calling.
2006-06-27 19:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by Marissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun communication is the key to a relationship, I learned it the hard way...fortunately we are back together. But from my experience I don't think any man wants a woman who keeps her feelings in. I presume you talk to him and let him know what's going through your mind. The relationship would only get better when communication is involved. Good Luck hun
2006-06-27 19:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by SuzzyLou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so....he's not your boyfriend. Because he's not exclusive with you so don't get jealous and stuff just cause he talks to some other girl. That's just petty and wrong. Obviously the talking thing will never work for you so i just start apologizing right away.
oh, and us guys never forget when you girls go off on us like that. We'll forgive but not forget.
2006-06-27 19:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by Man_With_No_Name 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him. Just be calm about it, and let him know that you trust him and don't mind him going out, but that you were feeling a little bit jealous, and it made you grumpy. He'll probably appreciate the honesty.
2006-06-27 19:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by anie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I now how u feel but he isn't a mind reader so when something is bothering him let him know otherwise it will eat you up and he will only wonder why u are acting like that towards him. but if it was my man there would be no way another woman would call his phone
2006-06-27 19:22:02 · answer #9 · answered by confused 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on your communication, but also work on your trust and jealousy issues. If he's playing around on you then who cares if you're honest with him? You shouldn't talk to him again. But, if he's completely loyal and you are worrying unneccesarily it could drive him away because no one wants to be with someone who doesn't trust them when they are doing nothing wrong. It could make him think he should be doing something wrong. You wouldn't want to drive him to do that.
2006-06-27 19:16:07 · answer #10 · answered by graybear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋