Women help me out here!!!!!!?

Question

What is something about your man/husband that gets on your last nerve. For me it is his constant looking at other women. we have been together 3 years and this hasn't stopped. He is very sneaky about it and doesn't thinks i notice. i this is the only problem with him but it pisses me off

i have told him how has looking makes me feel and he tries not to but like i said before he is very sneaky about it and i catch him looking. I tried punching him, threatening to leave him etc but he sneaks and does it. Is this something men just do? Do all men gawk at other women when they are in a relationship?

Answer 1

To be honest with you, yes all of the men do that even if they don't want to. It's the same as for you looking at someone passing you by... even though it might be for different reasons. Men are visual creatures and like to look at everything from cute to beautiful, and most of the time (more often than not) it gets them going in any way you'd like. If he's looking at someone and you've noticed it, just ask him why he's looking at that woman? Just don't make it sound like you're accusing him, be curious... maybe it's something that he likes on her or maybe her hairstyle. It doesn't necessary mean that he wants to cheat on you with that specific female. If he's still with you, it just proves that he loves you more than anyone else out there. If he'll ask why you're asking, just answer that you're curious... and also out of curiousity ask him what he liked about her.

When my Husband is looking at someone, both of us find something new to talk about. He voices his opinion about their looks and I end up voicing my opinion about how they dress... sometimes we find something to laugh about or even cretique together WITHOUT either blaming each other or even any thoughts of even close to being with the person we're looking at. It's just something that we found we can share among all other things. Hearing his opinion about this or that, actually helps me to see what he likes and dislikes about something and gives an inside look on what I'd like to wear next that'll be comfortable and will look great on me... and most importantly what will make him happiest to see me in. I know that sometimes it's uneasy and makes anyone uncomfortable at their own levels when they see their partner looking at a complete stranger when you are already here next to them... and at times it takes for the partner to realise whether or not it's wrong and how it makes their other half feel. You know what I came to realise by being with my Husband? Not only is he the most amaizing man in the world and will always tell the truth no matter what. I feel confident knowing and feeling that he loves me with all his heart and soul, and he'll never do anything to hurt me.

Just to let you know, if you'll tell your man that you're not happy with this-or-that or that you're even threatening to leave him... it might backfire on you. Don't tell him that, just sit down together in the evening and communicate with each other. Let him know (without blaming him, no matter how hard it'll be) that you're feeling uncomfortable with him constantly looking at others, you're starting to feel ignored and not needed. Talk to him and explain, he's a smart guy and he'll understand what you say. If you'd like you can even ask what he likes about those women and if he'd like to share his thoughts with you, you'll be happy to listen to him and his explanations. Once he'll sense that you're curious he'll be able to open up more to you and the looking at others will even stop all together... Reason being: he'd want to see you in one those outfits and see how gorgeous you look in them. He STILL loves you. Don't let your anger blind you to even subtle signs of his affections. He might be hard-headed to admit his feelings or wrong doings to you, but once he'll know you're concerned and would like to communicate on his level of understanding and curiousity, he might be able to tell you what you'd like to hear.

Answer 2

Oh girl you gotta watch out for them men with roving eyes. They try to be real sneaky, worse than snakes in the grass. I know because one time me and my man went to the gorcery store and he was checking out another woman while I was right there! Know how he did it? He was standing over by the dairy section and looking at her across the aisle through the reflection of the glass doors where they keep the milk. On the way home he said no he never did that. Yes he did do that because I saw him doing it!

Answer 3

****where do I start??? It gets on my nerves that for the last 2 years I have been telling my husband to put down the toilet seat. Well or maybe that he feels he can open the cupboards but not close them. He likes to eat but cant put his dish in the sink let alone clean the darn thing. Oh and I truely love the fact that he can wear clothes and put them right next to the dirty laundry basket other then inside it. I am annoyed by the fact that he comes home to tired to have sex with me. I think everything about him gets on my nerves. He wouldnt look at another chick infront of me because I would knock him out. good luck to ya girl- they dont change

Answer 4

I guess my biggest pet peeve is the way my husband leaves his newspaper sprawled all over the floor around his chair. Not much to bellyache about, huh. As far as your peeve - there is an old saying that goes something like this, "He can still look but he better not touch". Your husband would not have been attracted to you if he wasn't attracted to "females" to begin with but when you get upset about it, more than anything else it shows either your insecurity about your relationship with him or a lack of self-esteem on your part. Knock his socks off next time you catch him doing it. Say something like, "I really liked the color of her hair (or the blouse she has on, etc.). It will let him know that you caught him looking but won't give him the impression that it fazed you. Plus he might say something to you like, "I like your hair just the way it is". You never know....he may be looking at other women just to validate that he's pleased and happy with the one he's with...

Answer 5

As long as he looks and does not touch I don't think he's too harmfull.Besides just because he's on a diet doesn't mean he can't look at the menu,,,.My problem is how lazy my man is.His asz could be on fire and he still wouldn't get up off the couch.If he hasn't cheated on you than just let him know that it piszes you off,Men can be so dumn and not notice a damn thing unless you spell it out for them.

Answer 6

I think that's pisses me off about my fiance is that he isn't affectionate toward me. I learned to deal with it but sometimes when I need that attention he doesn't give it to me. That doesn't mean that he loves me any less its just that it isn't affectionate. Men will look at different women honey. They will continue to look just like we look at different men. I know its annoying but whenever you two are out and he takes a peak at another woman you take a peak at another man. If he complains about it just say oh well I catch you looking at other woman also. Just hang in there things will get better. I hope that helped.

Answer 7

It gets on my nerves too that my hubby does the same thing! But as long as it stays at 'looking' and not 'touching' I can deal with it. I have to admit I've looked at some guys who were definately worth looking at so what's good for the goose is good for the gander. If he is a faithful man who is good to you, I think that's way more important in your relationship, right?

Answer 8

Carry brass knuckles with you and every time he looks at other women, pop him in the jaw. Hard. Pretty soon, according to Pavlov's theory anyway, he will associate massive jaw dislocation and searing pain with looking at other women. And unless he's got a learning disability, your problem will be solved. Let the science of psychology work for you.

Answer 9

Girl a man will look at anything. Its their nature. If he isn't cheating on you, then don't sweat it. You mean to tell that when the two of you are together, you don't look at other men. Common you know you do!!! I would just look at the girls he's looking at and critique her along with him.

I don't like it when my boyfriend trys to throw things (food) in my cleavage and then trys to fetch it out with his teeth. He'll do this in public. Get on my nerves.

Answer 10

I think it is ok to look but what I do with my husband is when I catch him for an extended period of time look at one girl I simply tell him you like what you see and usally he gets the hint.

Answer 11

this is something that needs to be addressed. we all look at other people from time to time but there is a thing called respect that your husband is lacking. you need to talk to him and tell him how it makes you feel. this is the only thing that will get the point across to him.