a neighbor(i rarely talk to) told me my best friend goes over my house while i am gone and talks to my husband with THE DOOR CLOSED. Should i say something? i don't know if they are lying or not. Who should i trust? or What should i do?
2006-06-27 11:14:01 · 20 answers · asked by SweetS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Bring all parties involved together face to face, and ask them what's going on! They will either tell the truth, or lie about it, and if they lie, usually you can tell it when people lie. Best of Luck!
2006-06-27 11:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) Your neighbor should mind their own business...but since they haven 't...
B) Ask neighbor if there is any one/same day this happens in the week and about what time. If there is...
C) Plan on getting sick that day at work, do some spying..even if it means you have to rent a car...IF your neighbor is right, give them about 12 minutes in the house, then ... Ta Da! Walk in on them ...have a digital camera handy!
Now..think this through..does your husband call you at work at any specific time in the week to say "hi." ? IF so, and if he is messing around, he is checking to make sure the coast is clear. IF he does not, I doubt that anything is going on that you could not witness. OF course, you could get really sneaking and set up a spy cam in your bedroom...very cheap, very easy to conceal. Damn..I sound like a Private eye. Problem is, I have been there and caught them...to say the least, it was amusing to see their faces and listen to the excuses which ran on and on. and on...and on. Oh, well, that's life in the fast lane.
I sincerely hope your neighbor is confused. Good luck playing Mr. Monk. IT actually can be fun. Has your husband suspected you of doing anything lately? Asked where you have been, etc.?
2006-06-27 18:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT SAY A WORD, catch them in the act, ask your neighbor is she knows around what time she goes over there and then leave from work and go over there, there is no reason for the neighbor to lie, if you say anything to them they will know that have been some what caught and watch what they are doing, if i were i would catch them in the act girl, montior everything they do, but dont let them know you are on to them, how long has she been going over there??????????? its one thing to sit and hang out with a friend but it never has to behind close doors no matter what, would he like it if you did this with one of his friends, no not at all right, catch himm good luck
2006-06-27 18:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by prettygirl new orleans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it like this - what does your neighbor have to gain from lying to you about something like this? They don't have anything to gain - they might just be seeing your husband and best friend messing around and felt obligated to tell you since you don't know.
You should invite your best friend over for dinner one night and then confront them about it at the dinner table - their reactions should be indication enough if something is going on. The fact that your best friend goes over your house to hang with your hubby behind your back and doesn't tell you - is also indication enough that something shady might be going on.
But, don't jump too much to a conclusion - if this has been going on around your birthday or anniversary they might just be working together to plan something. Either way, you need to talk to both of them about it and get to the bottom of it.
2006-06-27 18:24:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your neighbor just did the right thing. Whether or not it's the truth, you will find out. You DO NOT tell you husband where the source came from this WILL RESULT in TRAGEDY. Do some investigating on your own. Chances are your neighbors looking out for you, and your hubby is a SOB
2006-06-27 18:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by Poestalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your neighbor to call you next time this chick is at your house when you are not there, then go home and catch them in the act. Don't say anything yet because then they will just be more careful, act like everything is fine so you can catch them and have proof. Then take his @ss to the cleaners.
2006-06-28 12:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set up a video player in the house and see if something is going on. Your neighbor did the right thing. Don't feel bad about the video I wouldn't if he hasn't got anything to hide he will hide nothing
if you just come out and ask him he will not tell the truth.
2006-06-27 18:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by Wendy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they are just talking. I would confront your man and your friend. Why would they make that up? Why is your man home when your at work? Maybe you should drop by unexpectedly in the middle of the day every so often.
2006-06-27 18:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would show up at home while your friend and husband are visiting.
Are you kidding me they are sleeping together in your house! If you have a hard time believing it, show up and surprise them both.
Sorry but good luck
2006-06-27 18:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by misscanada_y2k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off ask your husband, you should be able to tell if somethings up by his reaction (look on his face,looking away etc.) Otherwise you can always cruz bye when your not expected in.
2006-06-27 18:31:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋