We both sleep better if he's in the bed with me. ( it's a queen, plenty of room) I can just roll over to feed him without a lot of disturbance to either of us. He's 2 mos. old and I worry about SIDS. Has anyone else done this?
2006-06-27 10:41:02 · 21 answers · asked by unknown 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Not only is it okay, it's usually better for everyone that way. The baby gets more sleep because he doesn't have to wake up enough to scream until you hear him. You get more sleep because you can nurse him without even waking up. And anyone else in the house gets more sleep because it's all done quietly!!
If you're worried about SIDS, then being in your bed is also safer (is that what you meant?). Several studies have shown that a baby who sleeps alone is at increased risk of SIDS. As long as you are happy, there is *no* down side to having your baby in bed with you!
Another safety issue is fire. If your house were to catch fire, having baby right next to you is the safest place. Even if baby were in a crib right next to your bed, you would have more trouble grabbing him in the rush to leave!!! And if he were across the hall, and the hall was on fire, it could be the cause of a real tragedy!
It is *only* safe to sleep with your baby if you are aware enough in your sleep. If you take any drugs (legal or otherwise) that interfere with this, or if you are drinking, it may no longer be safe. Even if you just *normally* sleep so deeply that you fall out of bed, your baby could be at risk. But very few adults sleep that deeply. (And, if you are aware enough in your sleep to know where the edge of the bed is, you will *certainly* be aware of where your baby is!!)
In fact, if you baby-proof your bed, he is less likely to suffocate or fall than if you have to wake up to nurse him sitting up where you could fall asleep sitting up. (After losing this much sleep for months on end, this is *definitely* a possibility!!)
Enjoy your baby. He will be so grown up so quickly!!
2006-06-27 21:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 2⤋
It's more than OK. But practice safety by not using heavy blankets and not using unnecessary pillows. Remove all toys around the bed. Sleeping with your baby is a very natural thing for you to do and is good for you and baby. Co-sleeping actually reduces the risk of SIDS. It will also allow your baby to sleep longer and sleep more soundly.
Just keep this in mind though, do not expect that when you want your baby to go to his own bed in his own room that it would take 1 day. Kids need to transition to new things slowly.
I co-sleep with my son and he is now 15 months. My husband and I love that we can cuddle with him in the middle of the night. I am planning on starting the transition to his own room when I find out I am pregnant with my next baby (which should be early next year).
2006-06-27 11:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by mrs.izabel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine, as long as you are not intoxicated. the baby actually learns his sleeping patterns from you. As for your intimate life, that's a grey area, my husband and I solved that problem, by putting a crib beside the bed, so that baby could be there when we wanted to sleep alone, It's also nice when you're sick or drowsy to co sleep, or have baby in the room because you can keep a closer eye baby. Intoxicated people should never co sleep with baby to avoid rolling over or inadvertantly smothering a baby And this does happen. So avoid alcohol, drugs heavy medications like sleeping pills, if you will be co sleeping.
2006-06-27 10:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doctors & psycologist lecture against this. Baby should be in his/her own bed laying on their backs, not their stomachs. Geting up tp feed him instead of "rolling over" will guarantee that you are awake while feeding the baby and lessens the chances of your rolling over on the baby while you are sleeping.
Try to break this habit for the sake of the baby. You can not predict when SIDs will occur. The most careful parents have lost childern to this disease.
2006-06-27 10:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by gmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are fine sleeping with your lil one. Enjoy it. He will grow up so quick. I too slept in the same bed with my little girl. Your right when you say it's easier to breast feed. You read in all the books that it is such a bad thing...it's not though, it's very loving and the baby will love it. But I do advise to watch the blankets around them. You might want to buy this thing that you can lay your baby in next to you. It has soft walls that will help him from moving into an area you don't want him in. It will also help you not lay to close, but close enough.
2006-06-27 11:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by Becky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 3 month old has slept with me ever since we brought him home. He sleeps better with me and it has got him into a good sleeping pattern. It is much easier to have him sleep with you if you are breast feeding, because if he gets hungry you can just roll over, give him what he wants and go back to sleep. Just don't keep a lot of pillows or blankets around him.
2006-06-27 12:06:02 · answer #6 · answered by jawwmw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a double bed in my house. My son is now 11 months old. When he was first born he slept with me until he was four months old then he started to roll over a lot while sleeping. I also did it for breast feeding purposes. just make sure you have some thing around him JUST IN CASE you should roll over in the babys direction . I would recommend what we did while he slept with us make sure it is in a boppy pillow and a blanket. our son was on his tummy sleeping while we did this. oddly enough though.
2006-06-27 10:53:17 · answer #7 · answered by Alicia M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are issues with this subject..good and bad. Mine (and I have 4) never slept in the bed with me and my husband @ night unless they were sick. I still got up for the feeding and sat up with them. But never on a normal regular basis did they sleep in the bed with us. You are the best judge of the safety part. I have a friend who has a little girl, and she allowed her daughter to sleep with her. The baby fell and was injured (even with protection around).
2006-06-27 14:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by clean_freak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't, but a friend of mine did and now she's trying to explain to her new boyfriend why when he wants to stay over her two toddlers sleep in bed with her instead of in their own beds. It's really hard to get them to sleep in their own beds and sleep without you (which you might want at some point, or to have them stay with say your parents for a night) if you have them in your bed for any amount of time (like months, years, etc..). I noticed her kids are very clingy and don't want to be around anyone but her too, no free time without them. My son slept in his crib (at the end of our bed) from day one and is fine.
2006-06-27 10:49:39 · answer #9 · answered by banshee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im 19, 9 weeks pregnant so I don't have my own child yet, however Ive been looking after and raising my cousins/siblings, since I was 5. I find sleeping with your babies fine, but id prefer to have them next to me in a baby carrier or cradle.
2006-06-27 10:45:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋