Is it considered cheating if your husband calls another women behind your back,but says she is just a friend?

Question

he walked out on u a year ago, no note no anything.A year later calls looking for you saying how much he loves you.Comes back from another state.you get remarried again then one day u see your phone bill and notice numbers from the state he was at.you find out he has been talking to another women.But he thinks it is ok because they met in church and are only friends.But the whole part is why? does he call her when you leave for work if nothing is going on with them and he has no feelings for this women?

Answer 1

I contend that anything done in secret is cheating. If he is not willing to talk with her while you are in the room that is wrong. If he won't stop, you made the right decision the first time you divorced him.

Answer 2

you know excat;yly what he is doing and now that you know, kick his butt out, if they were friends she would call anytiome she wanted without any regurads to you, and the same for him, he would call her while you sitting there right next to him, something is going on and you caught him, now do something about it, dont settle, thats whats wrong with women they settle for cow **** instead of being the cow that ****, move on your never gonna get the truth from him and you guys will continue to argue and fight no matter what, becaue if not this women then it will be another one that he is only friends with, women need to be stronger not weaker, i dont understand, are you scared to leave, dont have any wherre to go , thats what we all say, but dont look like the poor wife that was cheated on by hedr hgusband, why give the other women that benefit of knbowing that you were mad and argued and fought with him, you divorce him he moves on with her and then what happens, she will the be the other wife on here asking the same questions right,, good luck, dig deep and dont let your guard down

Answer 3

It is obvious to you what is going on. How you address this issue is up to you. You can act like a fool and believe what he is saying to you or you can go to a marriage counselor and explain the situation to him. To walk out and not contact you for a year is harsh and I wonder why you would open yourself up to this mess and heartache. I would suggest that you remove yourself from the problem and seek some counseling because that is playing with you mind and your emotions and no man or woman is worth taking your mind. I will pray for you.

Answer 4

you know sometimes a man feels that there spouse or what ever is being nosy. but it makes him look bad because to you it may look like he is being sneaky. when reality is, the person he is talking to is a friend. but he probably doesn't feel comfortable talking in fron of you... because you may be all up in his grill... wondering what they talking about. if they are friends then trust that. unless proven different.

I understand you have insecurities. but don't let it get the best of you... and then again you may be right. but you have to let that come to the surface.

I was in the same situation, kinda... I had a male friend and I guess his wife was all up in his grill.. and his wife and I got in a physical fight because she thought I was after her man, when reality is we were just friends. Now I don't know. if he was actin funny about it or what ever or if he had hidden feelings for me or what... but in my eyes we were just friends. and I talked to him on the phone in front of my husband. so my husband new everythang that was goin on. no doubt.

my point is... let him be a man... if he is having a affair then you have to have proof... but just because he is talking on the phone with another woman doesn't mean he is cheating on you.. I know that is going to be hard to do. seeing as though you already think he is cheating... but trust me... the truth will come out eventually.

Answer 5

Yes he is cheating. If he wasn't why is he hiding this from you? You know that he is so either put a stop to this really work things out maybe with marriage counseling and if that doesn't work leave him. Your worth more than that. Don't let him manipulate you and stand up for yourself.

Answer 6

Yes it sounds to me like he is cheating. if they are only friends call her up and ask her question about there so called friendship. I think from the conversation you should be able to find out whats going on, and if not. Tell him to end it or move back to be with his friend.
Good luck!

Answer 7

If there is nothing going on as he says, then why the secrecy? Why not call her at home while in your presence?

If you NEED to know and he isn't giving you the answer you know is true in your heart, call the woman yourself.

Honestly, if you are doubting him, the trust is gone and so is the relationship.

Answer 8

you are more of a retard if you think he aint so that means u caught him with his pants down f u c k i n g another chic and he says i was only trying to see if she had something stuck up there u r going to believe him good luck in the years to come dont be surprised if u have an std u women are sometimes to ignorant

Answer 9

yes, because i am sure he has been with this female, if they are just church friends, then they shouldnt be talking that much, because he doesnt go to that church anymore. I wouldnt have even taking him back after he walked out on you. I have done that before, hubby done it three times, and i took him back three times, i know i need to take my own advice.

Answer 10

They very well might just be friends but if you aren't comfortable with it then you need to talk to him. Just be honest and ask him whats up with this woman and why he calls when you aren't around. You need to communicate with him and if you aren't comfortable with this woman being his friend (especially considering the circumstances around it) then he should be willing to end the friendship for the health of his marriage.