in our marriage. I cut her off once before for her negativity and telling me not to marry my husband and she did not even know him. She also told me to abort my child. I did not speak to her for a couple of months and she apoligized and I forgave her. Bottom line, my husband says it's either her or him. Of course I'm going to choose my husband but how to I tell my firend? She does not take no for an answer.
2006-06-27 10:23:56 · 18 answers · asked by lifeislove 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't let others destroy your marriage. Get rid of her. I'm pretty sure there are ways that you can tell her. Be upfront...go into BitchMode when she comes around. She's probably jealous of your relationship and is looking for someone to be as miserable as she is.
I'm having maritial problems, but I would never wish bad things upon my friends because a real friend only wants you to be happy.
2006-06-27 10:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is an old situation with married couples and best friends on both sides. So, if she's a true friend, she'll just be there for you as a listener if needed. Otherwise, she's not to down your husband or offer any opinion unless asked, and this may save a long time friendship. If she has a problem with your bringing this up in this manner, then let it go.
2006-06-27 10:39:43 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her Nicely when she calls or comes around that you are busy
and if she asks why you do not spend time with her tell her you really like her but that sometimes her negativity and opinions are a problem
and leave it at that also tell her that it causes problems in your marriage and that your marriage is to important to you to even put up the hassle
wish her luck in life
2006-06-27 10:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her open and clear that you don't want her friendship any more cause it 's cuasing a lot of trouble for you and your husband...tell her that you're sorry, but she is very destructive and her negative energy is destroying your marriage and that you don't want anything to do with it.
Good Luck.....
I wouldn't call her a friend if i were you.....
2006-06-27 10:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by xqueenyx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People that are so filled with negativity are very unhappy and insecure people. Pity her but yes, you may be best to remove her from your life. It is best to be around people that add quality to your life, that are happy for your happinesses instead of trying to make your life as miserable as theirs is. Tell her she needs to wake up, see the sky is blue and be grateful and that her negative thinking is casting a dark cloud and you prefer the sunshine!
2006-06-27 10:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to take NO for an answer. You control "you" - she does not. If she continues to harrass you or show up again state you do not want her around. If she continues to do stuff, get a restraining order - she sounds very off-balance. Good Luck to you.
2006-06-27 10:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. Tell her that she is putting a strain on your relationship with your husband and that you no longer wish to associate with her. If she keeps pushing, file harassment charges against her.
2006-06-27 10:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by yogazen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Went through something similar my best friend got all strung out on meth, and then decided it would be a good idea to begin dating my ex who I have a daughter with...
C-U-N-T!!!!
I am married, and my husband told me to do the same thing, well after finding out she was dating my ex, who I have no feelings for mind you, I just didn't want her around my daughter...It was clear, and I told her in a letter...I told her to go and f-u-c-k Herself, that she wasn't good for me anymore, and I didn't want her around..
Sorry for you pet...
2006-06-27 10:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by ~Sinfully~Exquisite~Stalking~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience...a negative influence in your life will eventually rub off on you. Let your "friend" know the bottom line, and if she can't turn to your liking......buh-by now!
2006-06-27 10:27:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you move? Change your phone number and tell her to get a clue when she tries to call you? Sounds as though she is grossly unhappy and wants to bring misery into her company
2006-06-27 10:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by proud of it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋