I'm going to get married! But I still have doubts about the guy I'm marring. Should I take my chances or leave

Answer 1

you have doubts!!!?? write them all out and think whether the objections you have right now -aka the things about your man that you are not so happy about - and really THINK and decide whether these are the things you are willing to live with for the rest of your life. If in 5 years you will still think those things about him are as bad as they are now ( well bad enough to give you doubts). Its better to do a favor to both of you and be very SURE before committing to marriage. Good luck =)

Answer 2

I would say that you should really think about what you are doing. If you have doubts do not go through with the marriage. Obviously you do not want to get married. You should just walk away while you can. There are so many guys out there that you can be with. Just take a brake for a while and really think about marriage what it means to you. If you decide not to marry him remember he was not the one for you. Prince charming will come when the time is right.

Answer 3

if you're unsure about getting married to this guy it would probably be cheaper in the long run to wait and see if he is the right guy rather than marry him and end up getting divorced in a year or so. it sounds like maybe you haven't been together all that long and kinda jumped into this with both feet! talk to him about your doubts and see what he thinks. if he doesn't want to wait and pressures you into doing it right now then more than likely he isn't the guy he thought he was! i'm sure all your family and friends will understand too so take your time before you take the next step.

Answer 4

Speaking from experience, if there are any doubts wait until you are absolutely sure. It's much harder to leave a marriage than an engagement. What if you have children then later on figure out you made the wrong decision.

Answer 5

Go for it! It will be fine. Men always change just the way women want them to right after marriage. What's the worst that could happen? You could suffer in a loveless marriage for a few years, have a few kids, get a messy divorce and have to start life all over, sure you'll be a few years older, and have some kids, but I'm sure some real nice guy won't mind the baggage. Got for it.

Answer 6

No. Don't take chances. If you have ANY doubts, call it off. So what about the money and all the arrangements. Its better to call it off if there is doubt. You would end up spending alot more money getting a divorce. Take time and really think about it. You owe it to yourself.

Answer 7

Doubts are natural in a situation where one is changing their life. Its even harder if you are getting married. I think you need to talk to your future husband. You need to be honest with him and tell him the truth. Make it a positive situation. If he has doubts too then you two can decide together if you shoudl postpone, or whatever is the best for you two. If he truly loves you, they he will understand what you are going through.

Answer 8

Any doubts should be cleared before making a commitment and saying "I Do." That would be asking for trouble and misery if you ignore what's bothering you. You can't just think about what others will think (including him), because this will be harder on you if it's done after the fact.

Answer 9

If you are doubting your love for him, or having any kind of doubts about marrying him, then that is a sign, not to get married, you should only get married. when you mean it. and when you don't have to second guess your feelings for yo man...

Answer 10

Never do anything your doubtful about. The doubt is asking you to look at the situation again.