my exboyfriend is good friends with all my friends/roomates, and he comes around the house and out with us often. when i see him my heart almost seizes and i get so nervous. i don't know if i still love him because it's been 1.5 yrs since we broke up but i can't relax when he's around. my chest gets tight and i don't act calm and when i talk to him i keep my breath and speech quick and shallow. i can't even walk across the livingroom normally when he's in the room.
i always feel like i'm falling apart. does anyone have any suggestions to calm my nerves? no drugs or alcohol jokes please.
i thought i was over him, but he keeps coming around. for example, he's basically invited himself for camping this weekend at my parents' campsite
2006-06-27 09:47:54 · 11 answers · asked by jami p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh, You KNOW, BITHC G
2006-06-27 09:52:36 · update #1
my parent's won't be at the campsite, but we're using their land
2006-06-27 09:53:32 · update #2
whats up with your avatar?
2006-06-27 09:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by BITHC G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could politely ask your friends to sometimes meet him at his place or somewhere else. You can make yourself scarce (and plan things with OTHER friends) when he comes over. You can bring someone else to hang with at your campsite, though he shouldn't have invited himself. It's important for you to move on and find some friends apart from your current group of roomies etc (not lose them, but occasionally distance yourself from them). The fact that he comes around so much makes you think about your good times with him (and forget the bad), especially when everyone else has so much fun with him. You may want to ask a doctor for a mild anxiety treatment; you don't want it to get worse. But it will probably subside the more you are not around him. good luck!
2006-06-27 09:54:15 · answer #2 · answered by Aemilia753 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to deal with the nervous energy and the feelings is to do a reality check with that person.
Find out exactly how he feels about you. Hear his own words from his mouth for yourself first, then you will know whether you truly feel the same way for him or not.
After the reality check is over and you feel happy about it, set up a time to meet him again and open up a dialogue and build a trust with him again. Be genuine friends with him and he will appreciate and return the favor to you in the exact same way.
Otherwise, find the next guy and start up all over again.
2006-06-27 09:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say ride it out and don't give in to temptation. What you're feeling could just be simple anxiety. Maybe you still remember the good times you had w/ your ex and this is only a trained reaction. Remember, time heals all. Play your cards right and be patient.
2006-06-27 09:52:32 · answer #4 · answered by kimchee_boi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very possible that he feels the same way if he wants to go camping with you and your parents. You should really talk to him about it and if he is uninterested then try to avoid hanging out with him. At least until you are sure you are over him.
2006-06-27 09:52:27 · answer #5 · answered by pumkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing will calm your nerves just take your time things will get better soon. Try not to let him no you are falling apart bcuz he will continue inviting himself at your house
2006-06-27 09:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by slimchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with him more. Doing that will either make you more excited, or calm down your nerves by getting used to him.
Hang out with friends with him, preoccupy yourself with friends, not ex's.
2006-06-27 09:56:42 · answer #7 · answered by makes me wonder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time to give it one more try. Forget the past.. look into the future. It's clear that you still have some feelings.. so does him.. Get together!!
2006-06-27 09:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by Raluca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably still have feelings for him. and see if he wants to do anything with you? and then ask him if he feels the same way.
2006-06-27 09:52:55 · answer #9 · answered by illinios2hollywood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this is why you don't find your current boyfriend attractive.
2006-06-27 09:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by SBean_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋