I just met this great woman last night and we really hit it off i.e. laughed, smiled, etc. She asked me for my number and email. I gave them to her as well as getting her info. I liked how we laughed together and how she kept stroking her hands on my shoulders and arms. Also found out that she is moving to NYC for a new job. I’m in CA. She invited me to come visit her in NYC at the end of the month or anytime. Here’s the problem: my wife and I are divorcing (don’t want to get into the reasons why and no hopes of reconciliation). That hasn’t finished yet nor does this new girl know about my future ex-wife. She also doesn’t know about my two kids. Also, she was with someone else at this night out I met her at. I want to ask her out. I liked the chemistry and sparks but I don’t know how or when to bring up the other stuff or should I bring it up right now. I don’t know if NYC or the other guy (been with that guy a couple of weeks) is a permanent thing either. Should I pursue?
2006-06-27 09:47:20 · 7 answers · asked by ntoriano 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dude - you've got kids - that ends it. Kids have to be your priority.
Besides you have not actually dated her yet and you have no agreement to be exclusive. You can keep in touch with your NYC lady friend, and if something develops ok - but you have to be with your kids - divorce does not mean you stop being their Daddy or become a part-time Daddy.
You and your wife messed up, don't ruin the kids lives by being selfish. Once your kids are grown, then fly the coop.
2006-06-27 10:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by Wolf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gosh.... you just met her last night!
Your infatuation is extreme because probally you jhaven't dated since you got married, the novelty is blowing thigs out of proportion.
Fisrt of all, you are still married.
Second, you probally would have to lie about your marital status and your babies, so you can pursue this girl.
She is going to relocate to the other corner of the country
She is with somebody else...
There are plenty of reasons not to. If you wantto offer her her friendship you might, but you will have to be honest about it.
Stop being so desperate, as many others will come.... concentrate on preparing for your divorce so you can make your self emotionally available for someone else.
Good luck
2006-06-27 16:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a recently divorced woman, I'll tell you that it really would be a rebound thing and there are plenty more women out there. Dont get involved at all since it wouldnt work being it's a long distance relationship. Save your energy on someone you can spend time with
2006-06-27 18:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by cocoanutt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bide your time. See what happens. Keep it cool.
Are you sure you want to be around this woman? After all, she was with another man and hit on you. What's to say the same thing won't happen to you? Too much disease out there!
2006-06-27 16:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you shoulda been open and honest with this female when yall met... That woulda been the most respectable thing to do
2006-06-27 17:26:21 · answer #5 · answered by michellenikolasdavis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be her brother or something...
But I'd say no. Get everything done and settled before pursuing something knew.
2006-06-27 17:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by makes me wonder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah
2006-06-27 16:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋