Whose fault is cheating?

Question

According to other answers on Yahoo answers, many MANY, women blame men.

If he cheats, it's his fault for being an a$$hole. However, if SHE cheats, somehow it must be his fault, for not giving her what she wants?

How the hell do women work this bu11sh1t out?

I have never been cheated on, and have never cheated, so this is not personal for me, but knowing as I do, exactly why people cheat, and it's not a man, or, a woman thing, I can't help finding all this, "It's always his fault, because all men are a$$holes" to be sexist bolloky rubbish that ranks up there with all women fake orgasms 'cos they are all lying b1tches'!

What are your thoughts?

PLEASE PEOPLE READ THIS QUESTION CAREFULLY.

I did NOT call all women lying bitches. I said calling all men a$$holes ranks up there as just as much BULLSH1T as all women are lying bitches.

I do NOT think all women are lying bitches, but some women obviously cannot read properly!

Hardbodied is closest to the truth so far ...

I wish women would get away from cheap, inaccurate stereotypes and massive generalities.

And Yes I hope men also do the same.

Answer 1

Cheating is a symptom of a relationship where people are not communicating and have lost their connection with each other. it's the fault of the relationship not a particular person.

As soon as you stop communicating one or both of you become candidates for infidelity....because we all miss intimacy with another person. We'll seek it out if we're not getting it at home.

A man may be attracted by beautiful women but we won't cheat if we are truly intimate with our wife. Our heart won't let us.

Answer 2

It doesn't matter whether they are a man or a woman - whoever breaks the trust of the person they are with by sleeping with someone else is the one at fault.

Whatever the circumstances that led up to it, whether it was the behaviour of the so-called wronged party or not - there's no excuse, is there? If you're not happy, why not just say so, rather than going out and sleeping with someone else? Finish one relationship before starting another!

I was engaged to a man some time ago who cheated on me with several other women - I think HE is an a***hole, but I've enough sense to understand not every man is like that. You make a good point - the women who blame men for everything are usually the ones that have done something they shouldn't have themselves.

Answer 3

I have been cheated on and years later I was the one cheating. I didn't understand it when he cheated on me, but years later I did. For the most part, I don't think it is a matter of whether they love you or not. It is whether they feel wanted by you. By wanted, I mean more than just willing to do things they ask. You need to be the one that makes the first move. If a person feels unwanted at home, they go looking. Not always are they looking for a sexual relationship, but generally it ends up that way in the end.

I believe it is never just one person's fault. If there were open communication between the two of them, a lot of the cheating would never happen...in my opinion, anyway.

Answer 4

I think the obvious answer is the person doing the cheating. However, there are other contributing factors in certain situations that may lead a man or woman to stray. A friend of mine was with his wife were married for 7 years. They had 2 small children together, and then the sex stopped. I know it sounds dumb; cheating to get laid. But he went 18MONTHS!! NOTHING, not even a hand job from his wife. At first he tried asking nice, being romantic, etc. Then he would beg, then he gave up. Then he got desperate and cheated. The thing is other than that, they had a great friendship, relationship etc. When he told her one day he might have to go elsewhere, she would beg him not to, but what was he supposed to do?? I'm not saying what he did was right, but she definitely needs to step up and take some responsibility in this situation I think. Which I guess she did; they are in couples therapy now.

Answer 5

I agree with your thinking - most of the women on here always blame the man, no matter who is cheating.

I place the blame on whoever did the cheating, the man or the woman. I never place blame on the person who they were cheating with (the other man/woman), because it was not he/she who was lying to their partner. So many people put the blame on the other man/woman, saying they should not be going after someone else's man/woman, but that is crap. It is always the person in the relationship who is cheating fault.

Answer 6

There is never any excuse for cheating, psychologically speaking, if a partner cheats, blaming the state of the relationship, then there are faults on both sides and the cheating partner is probably not having their needs met in terms of emotional intimacy, appreciation or understanding, as opposed to their sexual needs, which may be being met. Serial cheaters are usually incapable of giving or allowing themselves the emotional intimacy they actually crave.

Cheating is deceitful, dishonest and painful, it would be better to end the relationship than disrespect one's partner in such an intimate and painful way.

Answer 7

Well, as a man who's been married for 16 years to a woman who never wants sex. well, she has the odd rared week when she's like a nympho, then - BAM nothing again. how long do I go without for? well 4 years is the longest, but on average 18 months - 2 years.

Lot's of people have told me that would be grounds for cheating.

I am still faithful. When you love someone, have made a public commitment to them through marriage vows, you don't cheat.

Answer 8

appears like our questioner has dedicated infidelity. Hmmm. searching for justification??? attempting to appease your moral experience?? enable's commence through searching on the note dishonest. It skill appearing dishonestly. So the cheater is faulty, and suffers guilt subsequently. Infidelity is devious, merciless, and stupid. in case you aren't any further satisfied in a relationship, leave!!!!! there is particularly no reason to cheat. The isn't any justification, no quantity of reasoning, analyze, evaluation, or blame will absolve you of the incorrect of infidelity. There are all kinds of negative consequences to infidelity, starting from the numerous different starting to be an enemy, by skill of to the cheater, and/or the cheat's playmate being murdered. In France, you isn't charged for murdering your significant different in the experience that they cheat on you, that is a criminal offense of pastime, and hence you aren't any further responsble on your moves. In end. The cheater is at fault, because they made the alternative to cheat. It not in any respect 'purely' takes position.

Answer 9

These rules dont apply to everyone but for the most part most men cheat just to cheat. Just to get some new *ss. I have met many married men who say they love their wives, get plenty of sex and dont want a divorce but feel its their god given right to have things on the side. Women on the other hand cheat to get emotional love which their husband is not providing. Its funny how you think this is bs but men still go around thinking its ok for them to have one night stands but if a women does it she's a whore.

Answer 10

Most of the time and of course there are exceptions to the rule. Men are at fault and will be at fault when cheating is involved and I even mean whether or not they actually did the cheating.