Ok my past questions have had a lot of answers that helped me so lets see if yall can help me on this one.I am 13 years old and i have 5 brothers and sister all 8 and younger.my mom likes to shop alot and go to her sisters houses(which are all 2 hours away) but the thing is,she makes me babysit them all!!like when her and my step dad go out to shop they usually take a detour and go to a store hours away leaving me with all of these kids!the bad thing about it,even though i babysit them,when they get home they always fuss me for doing something wrong(like if i forget to change a diaper they punish me) i just dont think its right to babysit for hours and get fussed anyway.What do yall think about this?Do yall think i should stand up to them?Or should i just leave it alone?
2006-06-27 09:21:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
STAND UP TO THEM! Do you get payed for it? Tell them to hire someone to babysit! tell them that if they can't be there for their children then she shouldn't have had any!
And always know that you didn't choose to have brothers and sisters. YOUR MOTHER DID!!! I mean, she can't possibly be like "i am going to have lots of kids so my oldest daughter can watch them! blah blah blah! there is no excuse for that! SHE (your mother) needs to take care of her own children!!! go have some fun, girley!
2006-06-27 09:35:09 · answer #1 · answered by mortician 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you feel you should not be yelled at when you have been working hard on babysitting them. Ask if it's okay to have a friend help you, but when you have the friend don't forget about your siblings. It's also unreasonable to be punished unless it was something vital to the children's survival (like doing the Heimlich manuever, but you're not dumb, you're just overwhelmed.) Tell all these things to your parents. However, this is excellent training to be a babysitter elsewhere. If you can handle 5 kids under 8, you can certainly handle other people's kids for them! Think up a rate (per hour, not job) and then an extra amount per child for more than three kids. Mention that you have 5 siblings under 8. Then ask your parents if they can comply with your rate. Good luck!
2006-06-27 16:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by Bookgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think standing up to them won't give you any points at all. You might ask them, though, if you could be able to receive some sort of payment, for the service. Everyone needs spending money once in a while. Bottom line, if you are unhappy about the situation, you will have to find employment so you can save money and eventually find a way to get out and be on your own. But this will take time so best for now is to spend time with your younger siblings because believe it or not, they look up to you and only want to be just like you. You want them to grow up right don't you, so give them a good role model now and you will be even more on your way to being out on your own because your maturity level will increase in doing it. Blessings and best wishes from another oldest child who now has 6 grown children of her own!
2006-06-27 16:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should take a stand u need to let ur parents know that they are putting too much pressure on u. u have friends too and u have stuff u wanna do too right? so let them know that u can't always watch ur brotherz and sisterz cuz ur not their parent ur only 13. let them know u do alot of work watching them and then when they get home u get fussed at and thats not fair u've changed a number of diapers so if 1 is left so what! Good Luck!
2006-06-27 16:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by sengimars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it sounds like someone isn't looking at the big picture (your parents/step parents). Watching 5 kids at your age is a huge responsibility. Someone else needs to take on responsibility (parents/step parents). I think you need to have a heart-to-heart talk with them and let them know how you feel. I hope you get something for doing this. You didn't have the kids, so the ultimate responsibility lies with them. I hope all works out between you.
2006-06-27 17:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by ber69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Think You Should Continue to watch the kids. I mean you shouldn't have to do all of that, but who else will. Your Brothers and Sisters will love you when they grow up and your Parents will be proud of you. But don't let them fuss you.
2006-06-27 16:29:08 · answer #6 · answered by Zzack15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless u get paid for it i would stand up 2 them.
They cant keep using u as a crutch so they can go shopping or whatever and leave u with their kids. After all u don't have kids they do:)
2006-06-27 19:45:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem as you and i have to juggle a job with it to. it's just that my parents work instead of shop but they do go out sometimes. i would just let it go cause i wouldnt want to be the one to stand up to my parents
2006-06-27 16:26:33 · answer #8 · answered by Cj D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's admirable that they would trust your siblings to you. Just say..."oops, forgot that one, I was so busy with the others" and let it go. I can't understand why she won't lighten the burden by taking a few of them with her.
2006-06-27 16:25:58 · answer #9 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand up to them!!!!!!!! tell them how you feel! and heck, go shopping urself
2006-06-27 16:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋