i havent had sex before but i want to and i think this is one factor that may out boys off me because although i might want to have sex im scared to in case i make a fool of myself or muck up or how do i know hes using protection i dont know how to over come this.
2006-06-27 09:17:10 · 23 answers · asked by cookiegirl516 1 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
Don't have sex if you are not 100% ready
2006-06-27 09:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by GD-Fan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is by far the most over rated act by a human their is. When you decide to have sex and you will, you will undoubtedly be disappointed. It will most likely if care is taken by your partner it will be enjoyable. However it will not be anything like many people describe on TV or in many books. It is mostly hype! People that exaggerate there feeling when having sex do so to fit in. They fear if they say what their feelings really were after sex that some one might think something is wrong with them. When in fact nothing is wrong other than all the hype about the feeling could not be lived up to. People that say they can not live with out sex are in fact enable to feel loved unless they are physical in there expression of love. Well sex is not love and never was. So do not worry or fret about having sex, chances are you will be very disappointed. Good Luck and take your time. That includes when you decide to have sex. Don't let your partner hurry you make sure the two of you make the best of the experience.
2006-06-27 16:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello. I was just talking with an old friend from high school about the amount of sex that was going on in high school. I thought all of these years that I was probably the only girl I knew that waited long after high school to have sex. But, my friend confessed that she lied when we were younger and she didn't have sex until she was 21. The pressure was so intense on her that she lied to everyone. Even me... her best friend. Don't believe that everyone is having sex. If your boyfriend is mad at you or acts like there is something wrong with you ... RUN. Run as fast as you can. If you are truly in love and loved in return your first time will be loving and not scary!!!! Trust me. I know. Oh, and when you are with the one you love, you can't muck anything up. Sex is not just a physical union. It is very much psychological and if the love is there you will not make a fool of yourself.
2006-06-27 16:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's normal to be scared the first time because you don't know how it will be, and everyone is scared of those things he doesn't know. If you have sex with a boy you're really really in love with and who loves you it will be the most wonderful thing you've ever experienced (well, maybe the first time won't be your better one, but the next ones surely will!). As they say in a movie ("Lord of war"): "you're excited but you don't really know what the hell you're doing. And some way, one way or another, it's over too fast" and well, it's true! Maybe i'm old-fashioned but i think the most important thing concerning having sex is LOVE, if there isn't love sex will suck (tried and tested, it's just an animal thing, i believe i won't be able to do such a thing again). So, i say it again: at least for the first time, have sex with someone you love and who loves you and it will be wonderful! And you won't seem a fool at all, you'll be at your most beautiful instead. Be sure he's using a condom, you can know it because you can see it and if he doesn't, ask him to wear it and insist on it cos a baby is not a joke.
Good luck honey! kisses Alice
2006-06-27 16:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by Alice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, most girls if they say so or not feel the same before they have sex, its natural to feel that way. Wait until you are with a nice partner, you will feel more relaxed and ready. If boys are put off because you wont have sex then they obviously are childish and not worth it. You will know when males use protection such as a condom as you will see it, and he will probably ask you to put it on for him, or he will put it on himself infront of you. Dont worry about it, you will know when you are completely ready for sex. Sex isnt something you muck up either, you just cant go wrong. Take your time, relax, and enjoy yourself. Once you have done it once, you will be fine.
2006-06-27 17:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by carla_mail03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, here is the deal. Sex realistically comes fairly natural. It will hurt the first time, and it may be a little awkward, but that is ok. I would suggest just holding off till your married and then you will have the adventure of learning one another with your husband. It takes tiem to really get used to it, and even more time to get into other positions and things of that nature. Just let yourself relax and it will not be as bad.
As far as protection goes, it is rather obvious. usually he will have to stop for a moment and put it on. If not, you can just feel down there (he will not mind at all) and see if there is something over it that does not feel like skin. If there is, he is using protection. If there is not, push him off and make him put one on. You will learn as time goes by and you will get better. I still just suggest that you wait till marriage and learn with just that one person and learn what they like, dislike, want, and do not want. Otherwise you will have to learn all over again every time you have sex if it is with a different person.
2006-06-27 16:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by The Shadow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time having sex can be scary. You have to make sure that you're emotionally ready for it and that your boyfriend/partner cares enough about you to be gentle. If you can't trust anyone else to use protection, go on the Pill or some other form of protection yourself. It'll make things a bit easier. But bear in mind that while the Pill protects from pregnancy if used properly, it does not protect against diseases so make sure your BF uses a condom anyway.
2006-06-27 16:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait. It's not that important in a relationship. Boys will hold on to you longer if you don't. In their minds, if you are not loose, you are girlfriend/marrying material. If you give them what they want, they may only stop by when they want it. The ones that stay, without getting the candy, are worth taking a second look. Having sex the first time, second, and third time, if I recall correctly, was slightly painful. Pain isn't fun, so sex is not fun the first time as a female. Wait...don't do it. Find Mr. Right then explore those thoughts.
2006-06-27 16:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by maniaajo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys will just be happy (surprised) they are having sex, so don’t worry. Even if your head fell off, they probably wouldn’t notice.
If you want to make sure he wears a condom, put it on him yourself. This will also turn him on more than him doing it himself. Go get some bananas and practice some so you will feel comfortable.
Btw actually sounds like you should wait some more though. Once it is gone, there is NO taking it back. The first time is awful for everyone, so don't expect too much.
2006-06-27 16:25:56 · answer #9 · answered by liz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are? Are you very young? In which case you are probably not ready. In fact, bearing in mind your question, i think you are not ready at all.
If you are old enough, legally etc. and just have issues, i suggest you get in touch with your doctor and see if you can be referred to someone who can give you some "lessons" about the birds and the bees and then possibly see some sort of therapist.
having said that, if you meet someone you care about then you can discuss it together and will find the time becomes right
2006-06-27 16:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by Sally J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be mature enough to have sex. 2. You will watch him put the condom on- make sure there are no bubbles in it or it will break. 3. Don't do it unless you are ready! 4. Feeling scared is a way of your body telling you that you are not ready.
2006-06-27 16:22:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋