I have two kids with my ex and now that we are split we aren't making it financially. I work two jobs as does he. My question is this. He has found a house with two seperate living quarters that has an affordable rent, is nice and includes utilities. This will save both of us hundreds each!! I'm worried about jelousy issues , etc. What do you think? Go ahead? Should I choose the best financial route for the family, easy access for the kids to both parents or do I keep trying to make it the way I have been? Any advice, any other people with experience?
2006-06-27 09:16:29 · 8 answers · asked by Michelle F 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We've been together since we were 16. A long time now, we get along ok but both have feelings for one another that won't disappear.
2006-06-27 09:17:04 · update #1
Do what's best for your kids first and what meets your financial needs. Follow your heart with respect to the rest of it and see how things work out. Sounds like you have an amicable understanding of each other so who knows, this could be a good thing more than you realize.
2006-06-27 09:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a good arrangment for the kids and for you financially. So long as you two are not creating tension it can be very good for the kids a much smoother transition. It is not unusual for two poeple to divorce and stay frineds enoguh to actually get along and be frinedly. As for the dating that can be a sticky point if there are still feelingss for each other. Seeing one or the other brining home a date for the night could be hard. That is where the break has to come you both need to realize it is over and work to burn some of those intimate briges yet still remain frineds. Possible but tricky. Good luck.
2006-06-27 17:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by trialtoid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha. I've often thought I could live under the same roof as my ex just to get some help with the kids!! I don't have any sexual interest in him anymore, tho. If there are still feelings there, jealousy may erupt when one of you brings home a date or something. This would not be good for the kids to see.
2006-06-27 16:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by blueskies7890 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds tricky. I have heard of having one nice house that the kids live in full time and the parents take turns living there and then have an apartment someplace else that the one who is not with the kids stays. At least that way you can have some privacy if you want to date.
2006-06-27 16:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you either want to get back together with your ex, or you don't. That's up to the two of you. But if you truly want to get a life, and move on with it, then this will be a very unfortunate living arrangement for such a thing.
2006-06-27 19:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck NOT dating as the ex lives "right next door". Not going to work.
2006-06-27 16:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me I would do it and I would be putting away the amount it saves you and get away on your own when able.
2006-06-27 16:22:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd do it and if it doesn't work out, you can always find something else. Good luck.
2006-06-27 16:23:16 · answer #8 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋