my ex served me papers over year and a half and pursed custody of our daughter.once i got over the shock all i wanted was to have a fair custody agreement [which i got]
since then i have done everything i can to be a good father, i have been available to help my ex in anyway i could.
heres the problem......i still love her and want my daughter to have both parents raising her together. ex says there is no chance of reconciling but i still have hope but here lately i feel so depressed and lonely...
what should i do now??
2006-06-27 08:58:06 · 8 answers · asked by broken 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have just read the replies my question brought and as un-manly as it sounds i find myself almost in tears.i am amazed at the very kind words from people i don't know and in some ways my faith in people has been altered. to those of you who answered-"THANK YOU", jim
2006-06-27 10:38:13 · update #1
First, know that you are not alone. There are a number of men with situations similar to yours. And life goes on for all of us.
The best thing you can do is to continue being a good Father to your Daughter. You managed to get a fair custody agreement so that is one major problem in your life that has been avoided.
Next, you have to remember that you are the person responsible for YOUR life. If the depression and loneliness seems unshakeable, you might need to seek Psychiatric help to help you deal with it appropriately. There is nothing shameful or wrong with a man suffering from depression and there are therapies and medications that can be taken to alleviate the depression and help you cope. You ARE human and the feeling you have prove it. And if you EVER feel like it's become too much to bear and you start thinking of hurting yourself or ending your life, you need to seek help immediately.
You cannot do anything to change your ex's mind. Only she can make that decision. And the way you make it sound there is really not much of a possibility of reconciling. So be it. That is life. And it probably won't be the worst problem you will ever face but it is the one that is effecting you most now.
So begin the process of healing your emotional wounds. Continue being a good and proud Father and be vigilant about how your ex is with your Daughter. Get involved in healthy activities, go to Church, join a support group like Parents Without Partners, take up a new hobby, anything that will help you meet new people and continue moving your life forward. Good Luck.
2006-06-27 09:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by cc smith 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
What caused the divorce? I know you probably have had friends tell you this but sooner than later you have got to let go for the good of your child. Even if you don't tell the child your wanting to get back together they feel your emotions and they somehow figure it out. I would want the same thing you want. and your child wants it too but a persons willingness to throw everything out the door is just not right. It sounds like she totally blind sided you and you had no fight in you at all. Be a Daddy not a father and everything will work out for the best. Take care of your child first and things will just work out.
2006-06-27 09:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by billy b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter DOES have both parents raising her, and if you stay involved in her life, she always will. It doesn't matter that you're not in the same house. If your ex- wife sees no chance of reconciling, then you need to move on. You deserve to be with someone who loves you back with all her heart, and by continuing to pursue your ex-wife, you are selling yourself short.
2006-06-27 09:10:16 · answer #3 · answered by laylabriar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what many of us had to do, except. This may be difficult by yourself, so go to therapy, again like a lot of us have to do. Prayers and time will ease the pain although it won't ever really go away. It may get stored in a corner in time when you let yourself go on and maybe meet someone who'll be there for you and better for you. Just know that God answers all sincere prayers.
2006-06-27 09:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT GET YOU SOME FRESH AIR. get you baby girl and go to the park. dont sit at home waiting for your ex. she'll never come back like that. make her see that you are still fun.
2006-06-27 09:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by chevy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety do u and i a favor and go breathe some air then go back to her and see what your daughter wants because my pearents didn't ask what i want and now all i want to is run away and never look back so try and ask her first unless she is to young cause you have to remember she exsists
2006-06-27 09:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by Charnele B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Get some professional help if you need too. But move on.
2006-06-27 09:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and find a girl friend.
2006-06-27 09:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋