How many people have got married at age 18,19,20 and have kids?

Question

Is it hard to start and raise a family that young. I'm 20 and pregnant, I'm engaged and we are getting married in less than a month. All of his family is giving us a hard time. Any advise, or similar stories? Already sort of mad about the wedding now we have a little blessing on the way!

Answer 1

in my country there is lots of girls who marry @ 18 .. & they raise a family thats very coherant ... dont be afraid of wat others tell you .. in the end ITS YOUR LIFE & THE BABY IS YOURS ..

Answer 2

I got married when I was almost 19 and he was almost 21. We already had a 5 yr old and I was pregnant with our 2nd child. My family as well as his gave us a very hard time about this but we were determined to do it. We wanted to give our children the best that we could as well as we already knew we were going to get married long before. It wasn't as though we were just getting married because I was pregnant. We now have our 3rd child on the way due in Nov. We have been married almost 4 years. I will say it hasn't always been the easiest but we were determined. Most of our family members turned their backs on us since they didn't want us together, not only b/c we were young but also a bi-racial couple. We made it thru and couldn't be happier. Most of those family members have come around after they saw that we weren't just getting married to get prove them wrong but b/c we were in love. I say go for it, but don't rush into it. Wait until the baby arrives if you need to. Don't just marry b/c of the baby, marry b/c you want to. Good Luck.

Answer 3

I was 19 when I got married hubby was 18...we have two children together, I was pregnant when we got married but we did not married because I was pregnant. Yes it is hard and with family members being against it then that will make things a little harder for you. But if you both are committed and love each other and communicate than you will do fine. Life is hard at times but rewarding other times. Congratulations on the pregnancy and the upcomming wedding. Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

I have a little girl about 10 months, and a engaged to her daddy, and not ony because we have a little girl together!~ but because we love each other very much, and want to spend the rest of our lives together.
I'm 20 years old and our wedding date is pushed back till right after I turn 21, he is already 23. At least this way I can legally drink on my wedding day!

:) Ignore his family, if you guys are happy, then go for it, if you still get that jump in your stomache whenever you see him, go for it. I think they are worried that you two are only getting married because your pregnant. And its better for a baby to have the parents split and never marry if they are not meant to be together than to have the parents together, unhappy and sad.

Good luck with the marriage and remember what makes the two of you happy and what you think is best for you little one is all that matters!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

I had my first daughter when I was 19, she is now 23 and her Dad and I are still together. My mother in law gave us a maximum of 2 years, not thinking we could handle it or anything. Don't listen to anyone, There are pro's and con's for having children young, but if you and your husband love each other, you will work it out. Good luck!

By the way I have another daughter, age 20 and a grandson that will be 4 in July, looks like my oldest daughter has followed in my footsteps, but beleive me when your kids get a bit older, it's great being a young mom.

Answer 6

I do not have experience in this situation. However, I am 23 and me and my bf are thinking about having a baby sometime within the next year. It sucks for me because he already has a kid with his ex. We are not engaged but he told me he wants to marry me. Alot of people say marriage first then have a family. But you have to do what's best for you. Hopefully you are ready for a baby. Maybe you became pregnant for a reason. Just take things one step at a time and you will be fine. Do not listen to other people, it's your life, your decision. I wish you the best. Feel free to send me a message if you want to talk :)

Answer 7

I have been twice. The first time I was married I got married at 18 and yes we have a child. Me and him split when she was 8 mths old. He was under the influence of friends single ones so he wanted to be that way too. I am now married to a wonderful man and have been with him for 5 yrs. It can work out, it just takes work all marraiges do know matter what age.My husband is also 4 yrs younger then me. And his family likes to be in our and the others business, just put your foot down and tell them to mind there own business. Dont let his family bring you down, its your life not theirs. Good Luck!

Answer 8

My brother was 20 when he got married...they had my nephew and ended up divorcing 6 years later. My hubby got married when he was 19.... they had my stepdaughter and ended up divorcing 2 years later.

I know you've probably heard this before but you're too young. I'm 25 and have recently realized that if I had gotten married at 20 it probably would've ended in divorce. And that's because at 19 and 20 you still don't know what you're looking for in a partner. You may think you're old and set in your ways and you know exactly what you're looking for but the truth is you're still getting to know yourself. Give yourself some time, what's the rush to get married? Its so common now a days to just live together and see where it goes from there. And if it doesn't work out then you just go your separate ways, getting divorced is EXPENSIVE!

Answer 9

I got married when I was 17 and pregnant with my first...I had him 2 months later, and a year after that I was pregnant with my second. Our divorce was final 1 year after my second was born. I was married, had two children, and divorced before I was 21...my family wasn't happy with the decisions I made, but they all came around. I had to work my *** off to make something of myself, but I am 24 now and VERY happy. I have a great job, own my own home, car, etc., have a GREAT fiancee, and my kids are awesome....it isn't easy! But if you are determined to make something of yourself and are willing to work hard to do it, then you'll be fine! Congrats and Good Luck!

Answer 10

i was 19 when my hubby asked my dad for the marriage thing.. he had a beer in his hand whiched helped alot.. my dad is not an alcholic. i was three months pregnant when my hubby and i got married back in 2002. my son was born 2003 and my son was 8 months old when i noticed i had morning sickness sure enough pregnant again while on the pill. my personal opinon is you and special someone have to do what you think is best. and dont get married just for the baby's sake.. it always ends up in divorce... why is the males family giveing you trouble is he the same age or younger than you? i would explain to them that if you two love each other and want to spend the rest of your life togehter tell his family that. i wish you the best of luck with your marrieage and family. BTY my hubbys family after being married to him almost 5 years they treat our two kids as if they aren't thier grand babies, however my hubby was married beofre me and hubbys mom and dad treats them kids like grand children..and now they dont speck to us unless they want hubbys and ex wifes kids to come over and spend nights.. i put a stop to that though.. what is good for one grand child is good for all four of them.. congrates on your expecting little one

Answer 11

I think it is ok to get married that early, but I'm not sure about kids that soon. However it sounds like you don't have much of a choice do you???
My mom got married at age 16, however they didn't have their first until she was 30, so go figure.