2006-06-27 08:44:11 · 86 answers · asked by nadiakhansam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why???
2006-06-27 08:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by Discovery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not! The person that you are planning to marry is probably head over hills in love with you, and if you do not feel the same for him, and you are in love with someone else, you are not only hurting yourself but you are all so extremely hurting him! That is Deceitful, and a Totally Cruel & Selfish Thing For You To Do!!!!! Love & Honesty is two of the most imporant things that are required in a Marriage! If you can not fulfill them then you should Not Get Married!!!!!! And any way what about the guy that you are in love with? Does he love you? You should put your self in the same situation that you are putting the man that you are planning to marry and who is in love with you, in!!! Would You Like It If The Tables Were Turned!!!!!!!
Think About It!
Good Luck,
I Pray That You Make The Right Dicision!!!!!
2006-07-11 03:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, tough choice. Are you being logical about your marriage, or is it one that is chosen for you? I am in love with someone and married to someone else, so I feel you..and hope that your heart can point you to the truth. See, I know that deep down inside of us lies the answers to all of our life's questions...we just have to stop, get away from the 'problem' and then find the answer. And, truly, this is not easy, as most of the time our 'problem' is the thing that is around us most. My advice, then, is to stop, get away from the 'problem' and then listen to your soul, heart, and body. CAN you legitimately marry someone and profess to love another? That is a choice ultimatly YOU have to make, it is not right or wrong, whether you love another...what is right or wrong is whether your heart is telling you to marry someone else, and you marry the other person out of duty or fear.
2006-06-27 08:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI I can only say no to this. if you think you love someone else you are marrying the wrong man.marriage is a big step.i should put off your wedding until you know you are marrying the real Mr wright.this is for your sake and the man you are thinking of marrying.lets face it what would your marriage be like if you where thinking of some one else.there can only be two people in a happy marriage not three.stop and think. but think hard before you do anything. best wishes. sammylee,
2006-06-28 07:06:40 · answer #4 · answered by sammylee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not right and you will find out why doing your marriage to someone else.
I just don't believe you can (truly ) and I emphasize (truly) love two people at the same time because love should mean honesty, trust, and respect for another.
Marrying someone else knowing you love another is a recipe for
lying, cheating, and eventually a possible divorce.
When you love another but marry another your going down the path of infidelity because your heart is truly with someone else other than your spouse.
2006-06-27 08:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume that the person you love is all ready taken. So, you have someone else you like enough to hang out with and he wants to marry you.
First of all get your heart back from the person who you love but can't be in his life. Secondly, why marry someone you dont love. What is wrong with waiting until you have both love & the want of marriage with one guy.
Also if you are asking this question you already know that answer.
There are times in life that we love someone we can't be with. It happens.
2006-07-09 15:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If by marrying the one you love will give you many problems, then it's okay to marry someone else who you don't really love but can learn to love provided he really loves you. You must have your own reasons for not wanting to marry the one you love. Is it because you think he doesn't love you? There is no right or wrong answer.
2006-07-11 07:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will love more than one person in a lifetime but make sure the one you marry is more than love. You should also have trust, respect, & communication.
DO NOT get married for the wrong reasons. You both deserve better than that and life is hard enough without stacking the odds against you.
2006-07-07 10:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by snowhite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. You can love someone but not want to be with them. You know, care a lot about them. But if you think that you're in love with the both of them, you need to just think about what you're doing. Make sure you're marrying the one you truly love. Don't guess on it, marriage is something forever. The both of you can end up hurt in the end, if you make the wrong decision.
2006-07-10 11:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you cant marry the one you love, then you might have to marry someone else. Just try not to settle for the other person.
2006-07-05 13:33:02 · answer #10 · answered by emmaleigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would u do that to yourself and two other people? you can love someone and marry someone else yes you sure can. but who will be happy? the person you love will feel betrayed may even have so much influence on you that you end up sleeping with them again and hurting the person that you truly love so much. think about what you are doing and watch wicker park while your at it. you might learn something from that movie.
2006-06-27 08:57:34 · answer #11 · answered by jcn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋