I've had the same best friend for about 15 years. Lately he's turning into someone I don't want to be around. I've tried talking to him about it, but he just ignores it.
It is hurting me too badly to continue to talk to him, as sometimes, I just want to snap on him. How can I discontinue this friendship, and make it hurt less for me?
2006-06-27 08:40:26 · 8 answers · asked by batmantis1999 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Awe, thats so sad. U love your friends and I know how it is to have to stop talking to someone u love but ur going to have to do it for yourself. U dont want to hurt anymore and if he doesnt want to straighten up then what can u do?
2006-06-27 08:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by BlkBeauty24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I have seen this, even between family members. Yes, you can try using an argument as the way out. Or, you can sit and talk to him and tell him how you feel about being his friend and how your friendship is to YOU. Explain that he is who he is and sometimes people grow apart and have nothing in common, or they don't go together well for one reason or another. You want different things out of life or out of friendships, and you may feel as if you both are not giving each other what you both need in the friendship. You feel hurt. Tell him you don't want to be enemies, but you cannot really maintain a friendship, either. If he is not willing to do anything to improve his atitude, he cannot expect everyone else to adapt to the way he is if they are unhappy like that. I know someone who has that problem with her own father. She told him how she feels around him and that she can only see him now and then. She sees him in small doses, and anything further has terrible results.
2006-06-27 15:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What u need to think about is are u the one changing? Discontinuing the relationship won't do anything but make it worse between you and him and hurt u more. If he is a teenage boi then he's definately gon change thats wat they do u juss have to fall back and watch him evolve dont worry he'll appreciate it and u will too. If u discontinue this friendship u could hurt him more than u have been. If he was good enough to b ur friend 4 15 years then hes good enough to be ur friend 4 15 more.
2006-06-27 15:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he is heading for a stroke or heart attack it sounds like. Sometimes people before attacks like these their
tolerance level, becoming to snap back etc may have a medical problem. Since you can not make any progress with him, stay friends but see him less often until you know what is really going on.
2006-06-27 15:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by Lore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that he's changed and you don't want to be friends with someone like that. Give him the chance to change and maybe offer to get in touch with him later. Then stop talking to him for a while.
2006-06-27 15:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's become a different person,not the person you befriended. Pretend he just disappeared and move on. Surely you have other friends who do cherish your friendship, stick with them.
2006-06-27 15:45:17 · answer #6 · answered by kiss me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk away.. thats the best thing.. tell him you need to end it and that is it.. No more talking or hanging out nothing ..
2006-06-27 15:44:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you get into a REALLY big fiht over something stupid (preferably online), and then you NEVER talk to him again!
2006-06-27 15:43:02 · answer #8 · answered by Iman 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋