2006-06-27 08:33:48 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm not judging but kinda late to ask that question - don't compare yourself to anyone. congradulations.
2006-06-27 08:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by Angie's mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
20 is a good age as long as you are ready. Also I hope that you aren't getting married just because you are pregnant.
Myself I got pregnant by my fiance late January 2004 got married May 22, 2004 and gave birth October 27, 2004. Then we moved 4 days later. Everything was planned in that we wanted to have children, we were trying to get pregnant, stopped trying and then got pregnant the next month. The wedding date was changed from February 29th to May 29th then May 22nd to fit finances and long distance guests scheduals. I am now 25, my husband will be 24 in Aug and Gabriel will be 2 in October, we are trying for a second baby now and moving again the end of July. I HATE moving with a passion yet since I left home in the first place in 4 years I have lived in 2 different places for no more than now 20 months.
2006-06-27 08:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, why would it be bad to be pregnant at that age. I am 20 and 6 weeks along and I felt the same way for a little while until I realized that when I am 30 my child will be ten. We are still so young and its okay do not stress over it. You know you do not have to get married cause you have a child if you dont want to. Are you upset about getting married? Are you being forced?
2006-06-27 09:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by MissYYYY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT GET MARRIED JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE PREGNANT!!!!! That is the wrong reason and it will lead to divorce. Trust me! Been there done that.
If you are not marrying your best friend then you are marrying the wrong person.
It is not bad for you to be pregnant now, though. If you want more kids go ahead and have them IF you have the right type of man there for you. Just because he can get a stiffie doesn't make him a daddy, just a father, and you can take your pick of fathers at a sperm bank. Raising children is a job in itself. If you can stay at home do so. That baby needs YOU, not some nanny or day-care. That is a little person totally dependent on you giving her/him the love, attention and guidance s/he needs to grow into a decent, responsible person.
When your child/ren get into school, you can go back yourself and further your education. Get a degree or the skills needed to run your own business. I started out wanting to major in music to be a high school band director, but if/when I go back I will be studying horticulture!
On the up side, you'll be 40 when you can legally boot them to the curb and still young enough to have fun. Plus you will be much more mature (one would hope) and will be able to place limits on your wild weekends. If you wait until you are 30-40 to have kids you'll be pushing 60 at their high school graduation.
I wish you the best.
Gat a copy of What To Expect When You're Expecting. It is a great book, and it helped me a lot.
2006-06-27 09:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by raptorsmoonrising 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well being pregnant at 20 is not bad I was and had the baby right after my 21st B-day. I also got married when I found out I was pregnant, just be sure that you are getting married out of LOVE not just b/c of the baby!!! Marriage is very hard and take alot of work and so does having a baby if you are in love and are willing to work hard on your relationship and your baby then it is not a bad thing!!! ... GOOD LUCK
2006-06-27 08:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by mbg25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, I agree. Its a little late to worry about that now. The fact that you are getting married makes it a little better. But, for most, getting pregnant at the age of 20 would not be the ideal situation. You're still trying to get your life together, now you have another life you're responsible for. I'm 26 and I still not ready for the whole kid thing. Everyone is different though. I hope everything works out well for you.
2006-06-27 08:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first child at 19, got married at 20, and had second child when I was 21. Make sure getting married is what you want after all its not the fifties and you don't have to get married cause your pregnant. The older generation may give you a hard time but just tune them out. When it comes down to it, you will know whats best for you. Your situation isn't wrong, its just the start of beautiful things to come. You won't even be thinking about this when he/she says muma for the first time. Congratulations to you and many best wishes.
2006-06-27 08:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by Coffee Lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you ask the question makes me think you aren't really ready to be either pregnant or married, but it's rather late to change either, I suspect. Life is now going to hit you hard and fast. The best advice I have it to be prepared. I hope that you or your fiance have good jobs and a secure home. You need money, security, and insurance to provide for your baby. Family can help if they are able and you let them, but you need to grow up fast to give your baby the best chance at life and success.
If you have any doubts about these decisions, talk with your parents or a trusted adult. You are still pretty young but if you want to make it work, you can.
Good luck.
2006-06-27 08:44:07 · answer #8 · answered by nighthawk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO THAT'S NOT A BAD THING I HAVE A NIECE THAT'S SEVENTEEN SHE'S STILL FINISHING HIGH SCHOOL AND PLANS TO STILL GO TO THE NAVY. SHE WAN T'S TO BE MARRIED BEFORE THE BABY GETS HERE BUT I THINK THAT IT'S A BAD IDEA IF THERE JUST DOING IT BECAUSE A BABY'S ON THE WAY. IT COULD CAUSE A LOT OF PROBLEMS BEING THAT YOU HAVEN'T HAD THE CHANCE TO REALLY EXPERIENCE LIFE YET.BUT IF THAT WAS SOMETHING THAT YOU HAD ALREADY DE CUSS PRIOR TO YOU GETTING PREGNANT THAN IT'S FINE AND I HOPE THAT EVERYTHING WORK OUT FOR TAKE SOME MARRIAGE COUNSELING. BEFORE YOU DO IT AND SEE IF IT'S WHAT YOU BOTH REALLY WANT TO DO GOOD LUCK SWEETIE
2006-06-27 08:42:55 · answer #9 · answered by anniemae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife was pregnant at 16 and is not 28. She has made a great life for herself as a single mom. She finished high school and got a degree in business managment all before I came into the picture. She had the help of friends and family . And no that one isn't my baby. I don't know how any man could leave his flesh and blood behind
2006-06-27 08:38:52 · answer #10 · answered by jlayton134 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have gotten married and spent time in that relationship before you have a child. If things don't work out in your marriage, the child will suffer. That's what happened to me! lol Seriously, though. It sucked. I'll be lucky if I speak to my father once a month, and my mother struggles trying to keep ends met. It's not that she's a bad mom, she works full time as a Graphic Artist for a publication, but it's still hard being single and raising 2 kids.
2006-06-27 08:39:30 · answer #11 · answered by David Calisuni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋