My husband and I divorced largely because of his verbal and emotional abuse and all that goes with it. He is changing jobs now, and called me with his latest list of demands. He wants to have our child whenever it is convenient, and for me to be agreeable. My job requires that I work every other weekend. This is not negotiable. I have no weekend sitter, and can not lose this job. When I told him this he was really irate. He threatened "legal action again." This visitation was set up per HIS desires and is very generous. I always accomodate him, with extra time as he asks. WHat do I do now? I can not afford a lawyer again. All positive responses welcome - Christian perspective desperately sought.
2006-06-27 08:31:47 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Bottom line you have to comply with the Visitation agreement regardless of your job circumstances, You cannot violate a Court Order with the excuse that you are working, as many other parents work and still have to do it.
Ask a trustworth and reliable friend to give the kids to his father on the weekends that you work. Make sure that he knows of this arrangement prior pick up time.
Good luck.
2006-06-27 08:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there comes a time when you can't allow yourself to keep letting him walk all over you and demand things that he needs.. You are the mother of those children and it is your job to supply them with a stable home which means you need this job. He can't just up and call and decide since things changed in his life that visitation needs to change. Would he do the same for you? If the answer is no, then why are you going to risk losing things that are good in your life for him. You and your children deserve better. As far as a lawyer goes, if he does take you back to court ( I am sure this is just a threat) there are lawyers out there that will let you pay little by little weekly.. My girlfriend is single and had to do the same thing.. It will all work out but demand some respect from him.. He knows your accommodating and knows how to push all your button so that is what he is doing to get his way..
2006-06-27 15:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know much, but I'll email this to my aunt who I'm sure can relate. My 2 cents worth is this ~
Can you phone the judge, clerk of county domestic/civil court, or county office of children services for free advice or just to complain about this new abuse tactic? They may be able to help you deal with the evil X.
2006-06-27 15:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by im_a_fun_nut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on the state you are in you may want to do some research.
in the front of the phone book there may be a list of agencies or organizations that may be of help.
try contacting a family lawyer and see what information they might provide over the phone,sometimes if they are unable to help they can at least direct you to someone who can.
if you attend a church-speak to someone there.
2006-06-27 15:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by broken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first check to see if there is legal assistance in your area, my town it is listed as "legal assistance" in yellow pages. If so, go to court honey, he obviously knows you can't afford a lawyer, call his bluff!!! Or try to find a lawyer that will MAKE him pay, lots will especially if he is pursuing the issue!!!
2006-06-27 15:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does the divorce cree say in the paperwork? when it doubt, go with that.
2006-06-27 19:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋