Honestly women and men? Would you really feel comfortable having a bf/gf that was bi if you weren't?

Question

Let's say they were faithful to you but had dated same sex in past.

Answer 1

no only because you would never know if they have would want to date the same sex again

Answer 2

Not a problem.

The only time extramarital sex is a problem is when it involves cheating (which, by definition, can only happen during a relationship -- not before or after).

Having been married to a woman that wanted to share me with all her friends and her mom (and having been stupid enough to divorce her instead of taking advantage of that), I think the whole idea of "what constitutes fidelity/infidelity" needs to be revisited:

Again, what she did before we were together (I'm a straight guy) is irrelevant to whether I love her.

In the past, I didn't know how to accept the idea of swinging -- especially since my wife didn't want to be with any other guys, but perhaps felt guilty because she had been with more than 5 before she & I met (I was a virgin until after we married).

In all probability, I likely still don't know the best way to ask my wife if she wants to swing, or if it's okay if I swing, or if she'd like us to swing together -- but I do know that (being able to talk openly & honestly about it) is one thing to which I am absolutely committed in all my present and future relationships.

My ex and I spent about 1000 hours grilling each other over substantive matters -- everything from theological & religious views on matters of sexuality to more mundane matters like disciplinary techniques, changing diapers and dispensing medications to children. In every area, she and I had agreed before the marriage.

Six months in, she had bragged on my "performance" to everyone and was trying to pimp me out. By that time, I had so much invested in "being a pillar of moral fortitude for my family" that neither of us were able to find the language to say, "Honey, I love you, and I want us to always be together, but I'd like to renegotiate certain terms of our marriage contract."

That simple sentence could have saved us months of mistrust and agony ending in divorce: I knew she was open-minded, but I didn't know how to show that I was willing to consider her offers without losing moral legitimacy as the "head of my family."

And I found it very hard to believe that she knew what she was asking me to do -- but without a metaphorical "safe place" for us to go to talk about it (the environment that "magic sentence could have created), we couldn't explore the whole thing, and we ended up farther and farther apart.

About a year after the divorce, a friend needed a place to stay and I (reluctantly) let her stay with me for a while. She eventually invited me into her, and it was PHENOMENAL! According to her, she'd had sex with more than 3000 different other guys (her ex hubby had pimped her out for a while); imho, experience Definitely improves the quality of the sex.

She & I didn't end up bf/gf, which taught me that my original premise (sex isn't the determinant for a relationship) is valid.

Applying all these lessons together, just imagine the fun I could have both given and received, if only my mind had been a little more open.

Answer 3

Honestly, I wouldn't bother having a bi gf. Still, if your man is a great dude, you should find something convenient for both of you.

Answer 4

Married a Bi woman, it is nothing but trouble. Love is meant for two people to share not three.If it is casual then go for it, if love or feelings are involved steer clear clear.

Answer 5

Honestly? No, but if it's all in the past, it's not a deal breaker. Problem is, things like that have trouble staying in the past.

Answer 6

If it was only the past and she wasn't down like that anymore then ok. But if i look at a sista and i say damn she fine and she says Oh yes she is, I'd hit that. Then we would have a problem.

Answer 7

im a lesbian and i want someone whos gonna be faithful to me. If they are bi then i dont think it would matter as long as they were in to me and our relationship was secure enough we could trust one another

Answer 8

No not comfortable at all. Both heterosexual partners need to be straight and must have eyes for eachother only.

Answer 9

I would not want a guy who had dated a guy in his past.

You always have a feeling they want to go back to the past.

Answer 10

well I'm engaged and have a kid with this guy who I am starting to suspect may be...I'm not going to marry him before I know for SURE, and of course, I won't marry him if he is. He doesn'tknow that I suspect it though so shhh...