This (sort of) has to do with the other question I asked, as it's the same guy. But I'd do this for any of my friends.
The problem is, I know someone online who drinks. The guy's a steady drinker. Whenever he has a problem, he takes to the drink. He often talks to me drunk, though his typing doesn't waver. He once said he loved me, and when I told him I didn't appreciate the drinking, he gave it up. For about a month. Then he went back to it.
I'm desperate to stop him, because it's not healthy for him and it shows he doesn't care about anyone. Is there any way to stop or even slightly stem the flow? Thanks for all answers in advance.
2006-06-27 08:12:39 · 14 answers · asked by Calire 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
unfortunately, you really can't help an alcoholic. they have to want to stop drinking. they have to do it for themselves and not for anyone else. they are usually in denial that they even have a problem. people with addictions have to hit rock bottom before they even realize how serious the problem is. rock bottom is different for everyone. you can try to be supportive, but i was married to an alcoholic and it's very exhausting. good luck to you and your friend.
2006-06-27 08:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by fungirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to help himself. Just make sure that when he is drunk or whatever, that you don't let yourslef fix all of his problems. this just enables the drinking. Be there for him, but not supporting his alcoholism or cleaning up his messes. When he sees he doesn't have support to drink or while drinking, but support to change, maybe he will decide to change.
2006-06-27 08:18:23 · answer #2 · answered by advicemom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let that alcoholic know that you are not going to put up with too much of his drinking because it's begining to be a problem and that the alchol is ruining hi too.
2006-06-27 08:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that kind of person has to want help before they will take help as well. you need to give them support and not a lecture and be there for them and let them know your there to help. they are kind of fragile i used to be an alcoholic. and aa is very help full you can attend with this person if you like and give them support. they will need all they can get . good luck and happy 28!!!
2006-06-27 09:14:43 · answer #4 · answered by Munch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him in to an AA meeting ASAP. You might even want to go with him as a supporter.
2006-06-27 08:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by bacpkr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not much u can do to help him unless he's willing to help himself. All you can do is pray for him.....and be a friend to him. Good luck with it....and feel free to message me if u need someone to talk to!
2006-06-27 08:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to ala-non. What you will learn is that the only person to help your friend is himself. You can't make someone else want sobriety. Mothers can't do it, wives can't do it, chidren can't do it, it is up to the alcoholic himself.
2006-06-27 08:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by gina_road 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be buy them self and help them know drinking alcohol will kill you .
just keep talking to them they will come around some day
2006-06-27 08:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by believerchick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can't fix because it may come back on u
2006-06-27 08:23:35 · answer #9 · answered by cartwright_terrance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u drink all his alcohol
thats it
2006-06-27 08:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by newoldnew9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋