why is this happening?

Question

i dont get it guys thats older than me tend to approach me guys my age 26-29 never approach me if anything i look yuonger than my age

guys 40 and older are apporaching me

im about to turn into a lesbian it dont seem no man that i like or think it interest in me my friends always get aproach .with me i never get approach by a guy

Answer 1

probably cuz your cute and maybe guys your age are intimidated by you. Try being more approachable, smile more and give obvious hints when your interested.

Answer 2

If the guys are anything like me, and I'm 33, they don't think they have much chance with you, or they figure you're hot but not personality-wise, or they don't wanna risk being hurt/rejected.

The older guys have less to lose, so they say, "what the heck, give it a shot, she'll likely say no, but the next one will say yes." It's a numbers game for them, but guys our age either want sex w/o the rel., or wanna meet in more traditional ways. Make sense?

I'm no expert, so go look in the relationship section at the library to research this question more thoroughly. You may consider asking some guy out, instead of waiting for him to take notice or find courage. Also, a pack of chicks is like off-limits to guys, so go out alone or with a guy friend, then you'll seem more approachable.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I don't know thar there is anything that you can do. I know I had the same problem. I could only attract guys older than me. When I was younger no guys my age wanted to date me. Only older guys...anyway long story short I ended up giving an older guy a shot and now I am happily married to an older guy. Only 7 years though.

Answer 4

Could be a simple change of venue that's needed. Try hanging out where guys in your datable age range hang out, and places that cater to your interests (say you enjoy painting or dancing or something and you takes classes for those things). Older guys will always try to hit on us hot young ladies no matter where you go, but by going somewhere where they are less likely to hang out, you'll cut your chances of being pestered by one of them significantly. Worked for me, at least while I'm out. Now, when I stop for gas or something, that's a whole different story. Just smile and say, "Thanks but I'm not interested," and walk away.

Answer 5

That happens to me. Guys are age are immature and want older women. While guys older like younger women. Makes them feel younger. Dont worry you'll find someone.

Answer 6

I don't get it either. You're obviously attracting men that are going through their mid-life crisis it seems.

What kind of signals are you sending?? How are you dressing? What are your conversations like? Do you unconsciously shut down men in your age group?

Something's going on that's not being said. For older men to come sniffing on your trail consistently...there HAS TO BE bread crumbs to follow. Don't play yourself be real.

Answer 7

Dont wait for a guy to approach u ...njoy life and live life...it will happen in time...maybe you so conscious of this that you arent able to be yourself around guys...Just relax and forget about the guys ....when you do this and start being yourself...they will notice you...

Answer 8

Would it be such a huge sin to date a man in his 40s? You might decide you cant deal with immature kids ever again.

Answer 9

turn into les? can't u be more independant? if u can someone u feel like knowing, just go straight up instead of waiting him to come n know u... things don't just always come naturally

Answer 10

well dress younger then. it might help. try approaching the guy for once then u wouldnt get mixed up. well good luck.