I had asked my husband (seperated) to watch our twin daughters on July 3rd because my babysitter is taking the day off - since then we have had a fight and broke up again. His family has an issue with me for not wanting to be with someone who uses me and has no respect for me - and they never call to check on the babies. I have always told all of them they can come see the babies when they want - the babies are 4 mos old and this happened almost two months ago. No one ever calls or (and this may sound petty) sends formula or diapers or wipes or clothes..... you get the point. He planned on visiting with his family - while I can't be there - on the 3rd - do I let him or not. One of the babies has issues with strangers - and honestly they are to her. Should I tell him no now?
2006-06-27 08:06:39 · 6 answers · asked by a1025goodgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think I was being a little hasty with my question - there are a lot of details I did not include - his drug history - his other two children that his family all but worships - and the fact that he pays nothing in support and refuses to help me out. But none the less - I feel maybe my question was unfair - and I will just take the day off and care for my children. Old timer was right.
2006-06-27 09:05:54 · update #1
If you can't be there on the 3rd. of July...then who will be there to babysit the babies.? "Do you let him or not" what do you mean by this...do you have to give him permission to visit his family? or do you bring the babies to him? or what?...no I don't get your point on the diapers, wipes or clothes...are you counting on them to provide for your children's needs. Your responsibility is not to be hateful or not hateful to your husbands family or anybody else for that matter, nor for any reason whatsoever, You and your husband responsibility should be providing for your babies. Just take care of you and the babies. If your husband is married more to his family than too his kids then is time to get some serious counseling for the both of you.
I'm not being judgmental, but from my life's experience I can tell you are under great stress, your thoughts are fragment and show a lack of cohesion and your priorities may be mixed up. Please seek a Child Welfare Agency to help you and your babies..
2006-06-27 08:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by oldtimer 4 · 8⤊ 2⤋
You can't stop a father from being with his kids, but if you feel uncomfortable with it, arrange the meeting with a friend or someone that you trust there too. It's definitely not petty to want him to provide things for the kids (because they're his responsibility too!) Unless you feel that he is unfit to be around them, don't take your anger towards him and his family out on the babies. I don't think it's right what they're doing, but unless it's starts to negatively affect the kids let them see them whenever they can.
2006-06-27 15:11:51 · answer #2 · answered by BabyFirefly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him yes, if it's him seeing them. They need to be around all the time for the babies, not just when he happens to get them. On the other hand, it will give you a nice break. Good luck.
2006-06-27 15:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DOn't let your hate for him affect the relationship/or lack of relationship with the father. He sucks and soon they will realize it too when their old enough.
2006-06-27 15:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by GiGi29125 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be hateful just let them see the kids
2006-06-27 15:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not be hateful in your response/reaction.
2006-06-27 15:10:10 · answer #6 · answered by Unique 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋