i love him...i feel good about it...but we've only been goin out a month. should we start with oral sex first?
2006-06-27 07:44:18 · 18 answers · asked by suMMeRtiMe 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It escapes me why teens these days think oral sex is less of an intimate act than regular sex. However, it is a lot safer both in terms of pregnancy and disease.
It is the right time to consider having sex when you:
a. are both comfortable about discussing birth control and disease prevention
b. are properly prepared to prevent both (you should go on the pill AND use a condom)
c. are ready to deal with the emotional consequences of a sexual relationship, meaning that you will be more hurt if you break up and women assume sex means more commitment from the guy but it often does not.
d. are both ready to be completely and utterly monogamous.
If you can't talk about any of the above AND reach a mutual agreement, you are not yet ready for sex.
Personally, I would never give oral sex to someone I would not have regular sex with. They are both special and intimate acts.
2006-06-27 07:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lori A 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if y'all have only been going out for a month...then i dont think that you really LOVE him, it takes a while to know that you love someone...well most of the time. I would say not to start off with oral sex...i would say dont do anything untill both of you are really sure about it...but it is your life and your choice so you can do whatever you want...but i would say not to do anything yet because what alll he wanted from you was to give him head and then when you do he breaks up with you? And believe me that happens..i had a friend that, that happened to. Well anyways like i said if you feel that he is the right one then...go right ahead...and if you do make sure that you use protection!
2006-06-27 16:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by Julia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah oral sex first but only after yall have been together for a real long time and know that you will be with eachother for the rest of your lives
2006-06-27 14:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by marishka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no damn month is long at all i waited 5 months to have sex with my boyfriend cus ur man gna git the pussy and then he aint got no goals after that accept being with u cus look in a relationship u look forward 2 da 1st kiss, then u know chyllen and all and i love you and sex and how do u kno u love him u onli been wit him a month? i hate wen ppl misuse that word
2006-06-27 15:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by babygirl08237 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to be whatever but one month is a little bit of time to love someone,and if ya'll love each othe r try waiting till your a little older.Make sure hes not with u just to get in your pants try to wait a few more months and if he sticks with u after that,if u use protection and u want him to be your first go ahead,but please wait till you know for sure,good luck
2006-06-27 15:25:08 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Mariah™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I DO" first, then sex. Unless you want to be a fornicator. Someone who has sex outside of marriage is called a fornicator and that is a sin in the eyes of the Lord.
2006-06-27 18:44:08 · answer #6 · answered by savagerose90814 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no measure to how you feel for a person, if you are ready and prepared then it is okay, but I will wait about a couple of months before I start being intimate with someone, besides if he loves you he will wait.
2006-06-27 15:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will I say give it a little more time cause in your mind in every girls mind including me ,we think he's the one but he ends up not being . But I 'd say think it over do u really want to give to him now ? What if u ever get in a fight with him and brake up ? So I mainly say give it a little more time and think it over .
2006-06-27 14:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by xchatgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a month is nothing to tell and if you are just a teen you will feel the same way with another guy after you dump this one so....until you are old enough to settle with someone, i would say don't do it.
2006-06-27 15:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how old r u? And no you botth should wait until you are both ready. And when youu are then go for it.
2006-06-27 15:43:08 · answer #10 · answered by kellymarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋